Over the course of history, I've learned that women have been struggling to fight for their motherhood rights, or in other words, the rights to perform an abortion or not when it comes to unplanned pregnancies. Now, there are tons of different safe and affordable services where women can have access to get an abortion or to programs that'll help distressed mothers with finding the right adoptive parents for the child. In easier words, women now basically have a lot of different choices and paths when they accidentally get pregnant. But what about men? What kind of options do they have when they get involved with an accidental pregnancy?

When a man accidentally gets a women pregnant, people tend to always have their mind set on the fact that the man is going to be the father, whether he wants to or not, because it's "his fault" overall. But if the guy doesn't want to be put in the legal position of being the father, is it really the smart decision to put him in that position anyway? Is it really fair to not have the upcoming child's interests at heart?

Yes, at the end of the day, the woman can choose if she chooses to get an abortion or not whether the man wants her to or not because it is HER body and HER choice. But since when did woman have more reproductive body rights than men?

Then again, society tends to put a huge burden on pregnant women than they do to men when it comes to accidental pregnancies.

Some women may argue that it's not "fair" for the man to not become the legal father if he gets the woman pregnant because then she'll have to go through the process alone. But what if the man and the woman who are involved with the pregnancy aren't married, or even dating anymore? Is it fair for the man, and the woman, to be forced to go through a stressful process of trying to see eye to eye with each other while raising a child at the same time?

Forcing fatherhood may also create messy situations within a family's stability. The mom and the court may want to keep and preserve the ideal "traditionally family" image (dad, mom, and kid(s)), but coercing that legal position onto a guy who isn't ready to fill in those shoes could possibly lead to bigger and messier court cases in the future, which would end up costing an unwanted amount of money that would need to be paid and would definitely not save that ideal family image.

Then again, sometimes the court is the woman's only option in hopes to keep her family together and can we blame her for in attempts to try to keep her family together? We've been taught growing up that the plan for life is to grow up, get married, and have a family.

But if women argue that a woman shouldn't be punished for being sexually active, by taking away her options, then shouldn't the man not be punished for being sexually active as well? (As long as consent was given by both parties). Some may ask who should we hold accountable then for these types of situations and I can't tell you the answer to that. I don't know myself but I think it's important to address these types of situations because it's such a confusing situation with lots of unclear answers.

I don't think that the men who can't fill in the legal "father" position are necessarily "bad." If anything, I think that they're saying no because they either know that they aren't financially or mentally ready to raise a child or because they already have the child's best interests and don't want to harm the kid's future in any way. But I do believe that we need to respect men's reproductive rights just as we do with women's reproductive rights, as well as opening up new options for men when they're stuck in an accidental pregnancy situation.

Now I'm not saying that the women who argue against fatherhood are "bad" in any way. I'm not trying to down the women or the men of these kinds of situatio,n but it's a thought that a lot of people tend to have. I do believe in equal rights for both genders and that there should be more open to men's side of this kind of situations, while women shouldn't have to deal with society's burdens and the negativity with accidental pregnancies.