The Truth About Feminist Talking Points

The Truth About Feminist Talking Points

The Misleading Statistics Feminists Often Use As Arguments

Full disclosure, I do not now, nor have I ever considered myself a feminist. I do not hate women and I certainly do not think that women are inferior to men, but I reject that label regardless. Rather, I would much rather describe myself as an egalitarian because I want equal rights for all (regardless of gender, race, or sexual orientation). My views are not one sided, as many feminists are, and I value logic and reason above emotion and feelings. I haven’t really touched on women’s issues a whole lot here on The Odyssey, but with the recent marches for women’s rights all over the country, I feel that it is important to not only support them in areas in which they have legitimate grievances, but also criticize them in areas where they are misguided by misleading statistics or flat out wrong.

One major talking point for modern feminists is the gender wage gap. I am somewhat shocked when I hear the point get repeated time and time again even though it is constantly disproved. For those who don’t know, feminists often state that women bake 77 cents for every dollar a man makes in the work place. The problem is that not only is this misleading, it is flat out wrong. What the gender wage gap measures is the average earnings between men and women who are working full time. It does not take into account different job positions, different job choices, occupations, education, or hours worked in a single week. It does not take into account that men and women are different. They have different interests. Studies have shown that while men, on average, tend to work in technological fields while women have a higher tendency to work in creative or caretaking fields such as teachers. Women are also more likely to work part time rather than full time jobs and be stay at home parents, which is why the wage gap exists in the first place. Now before you throw the “internalized oppression that causes women to choose different paths” bullshit on me, allow me to propose a question: Is it not possible that women and me have different preferences. Men and women are biologically wired differently, so it is completely reasonable to believe that generally, men and women have different ideas as to what makes them happy. Women are often drawn to more child caring positions (such as teaching or pediatrics) because they generally have a natural motherly bond with children. That’s not sexist, it’s just biology.

Another issue that is a major talking point among feminists is the college rape culture. People who believe in this mythological issue is convinced that 1 in 5 women are rape on college campuses. That false statistic comes from an unscientific survey conducted at Harvard University. While this may sound horrible (the fact that anyone gets raped is horrible enough) it is highly misleading. It is important to note that the survey counted consensual sex performed under the influence of alcohol as rape. If it were true that this is an example of rape, would the man also not be a victim or rape? No, of course not because, according to the feminist agenda, men cannot be raped. Many feminists are angered when a woman who has claimed to have been raped is initially met with skepticism and doubt. This isn’t because she is unbelievable, but because here in America, people on trial are innocent until they are proven guilty. It is completely unethical to condemn a young man accused of rape when there is little to no evidence that the alleged rape occurred.

Catcalling is another issue that gets thrown around a lot in feminist circles and I think that there are some legitimate concerns there, but I would be foolish not to admit that a lot of catcalling and sexual harassment claims are bullshit. In fact, there is a documented incident where a man kindly says “hello” to a woman and then she goes off the chart insane and claims sexual harassment. In the video, she calls the police and when the police come, they decide that no sexual harassment was taking place. Then the bitch cries “racism” or “sexism” or some type of –ism so that she will be viewed as a victim to all her Internet trolling friends. There are countless examples of this, and just like calling someone racist when there is no evidence of them being racist, it severely damages the cause. Catcalling is a serious issue and men or women who legitimately take part in it should be dealt with. However, there are too many of examples of this out there that it is hard to bring any real attention to the issue without it being dismissed.

With all of that being said, there are a few legitimate claims that modern day feminism speaks out against that are legitimate. One of the few legitimate grievances that modern feminists speak out against is reproductive rights. A woman’s right to choose is very much under attack from the right wing agenda and should be stopped immediately. Women have the right to do with their bodies what they choose as long as they are not hurting anyone else. Another is the whole breastfeeding issue. Women should absolutely be allowed to pull her tits out to feed her child. That something so natural and so fundamental that it shouldn’t even be debated. But I would take it a step farther. Women should be allowed to walk around shirtless if they want to and not be harassed. But the GOPers have a tendency to over sexualize everything (both from a female and a transgender rights perspective). It really makes you think what is going on in their heads.

The bottom line is that men and women are pretty equal these days. Both sexes have the right to vote and the freedom to do anything they want with their lives, regardless of the fact that they tend to choose different careers. There are, of course, a few exceptions such as the breastfeeding and reproductive rights issues. But saying that men are treated better than women is false in most cases. In fact, I would make the argument that women, at times, have it easier than men. For example, women tend to serve shorter prison sentences than men, men often get fucked over in divorce and custody settlements, and women currently get to opt out in registering for the draft, while it is mandatory for men. When I say that men and women should be treated equally, I mean it. There should be no difference in the way they are treated. Women should not get theses few privileges that men do not get nor should men be able to walk shirtless in public if women can’t. This is what true equality looks like and the sad fact is that feminism no longer cares about equality among the genders.

Peace, Love, Logic, and Reason!

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To The Boy Who Will Love Me Next

If you can't understand these few things, leave before things get too involved

To the boy that will love me next, I need you to know and understand things about me and my past. The things I have been though not only have shaped the person I’ve become, but also sometimes controls my life. In the past I’ve been used, abused, and taken for granted, and I want something real this time. The guys before you were just boys; they didn’t know how to treat me until it was too late. They didn’t understand how to love me, until I broke my own heart. Before you truly decide to love me I want you to understand these things.

When I tell you something, please listen.

I’m my own person, I want to be loved a certain way. If I ask you to come over and watch movies with me please do it, if I ask for you to leave me alone for a few hours because it’s a girl’s night please do it. I don’t just say things to hear my own voice, I say things to you because it’s important to my life and the way I want to be loved. I’m not a needy person when it comes to being loved and cared for, but I do ask for you to do the small things that I am say.

Forgive my past.

My past is not a pretty brick road, it is a highway that has a bunch of potholes and cracks in it. I have a lot of baggage, and most of it you won’t understand. But don’t let my past decided whether you want to love me or not. My past has helped form who I am today, but it does not define who I am. My past experiences might try and make an appearance every once in a while, but I will not go back to that person I once was, I will not return to all that hurt I once went though. When I say those things, I’m telling the complete and honest truth. I relive my past every day, somethings haunt me and somethings are good reminds. But for you to love me, I need you to accept my past, present and future.

I’m just another bro to the other guys.

I have always hung out with boys, I don’t fit in with the girl groups. I have 10 close girlfriends, but the majority of my friends are guy, but don’t let this scare you. If I wanted to be with one of my guy friends I would already be with him, and if you haven’t noticed I don’t want them because I’m with you. I will not lose my friendships with all my guy friends to be able to stay with you. I will not cut off ties because you don’t like my guy friends. I have lost too many buddies because of my ex-boyfriends and I promised myself I wouldn’t do that again. If you don’t like how many guy friends I have you can leave now. Don’t bother trying to date me if you can accept the fact I’m just another bro.

I might be a badass, but I actually have a big heart.

To a lot of people I come off to be a very crazy and wild girl. I will agree I can be crazy and wild, but I’m more than that. I’m independent, caring, responsible, understanding, forgiving, and so such more type of woman. Many people think that I’m a badass because I don’t take any negatively from anyone. Just like we learned when we were younger, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.” Most people can’t do that in today’s world, so I stick up for myself and my friends. I don’t care what anyone thinks about me, or their option on how I live my life. The only thing I care about is being able to make myself happy. Even though I’m an independent woman, understand that I do have a big heart. Honesty when I truly care for someone I will do just about anything they ask, but don’t take advantage of this. Once you take advantage of this part of me, all respect will be lost for you.

I’m hard to love.

Sometimes I want to be cuddle and get attention, and sometimes I don’t want you to talk to me for a couple hours. Sometimes I want you to take me out for a nice meal, but sometimes I want a home cooked meal. Every day is different for me, sometimes I change my mind every hour. My mood swings are terrible on certain days, and on those days you should probably just ignore me. I’m not easy to love, so you’ll either be willing to find a way to love me, or you’ll walk out like so many others have.

I’m scared.

I’m scared to love someone again. I’ve been hurt, heartbroken, and beat to the ground in my past relationships. I want to believe you are different, I want to hope things will truly work out, but every relationship has always ended up the same way. I’m scared to trust someone, put my whole heart into them, just to be left and heartbroken again. I sick and tired of putting my whole body and soul into someone for them to just leave when it is convenient for them. If you want to love me, understand it won’t be easy for me to love you back.

When “I’m done.”

When I say “I’m done” I honestly don’t mean that I’m done. When I say that it means I need and want you to fight for me, show me why you want to be with me. I need you to prove that I’m worth it and there’s no one else but me. If I was truly done, I would just walk away, and not come back. So if I ever tell you, “I’m done,” tell me all the reasons why I’m truly not done.

For the boy who will love me next, the work is cut out for you, you just have to be willing to do it. I’m not like other girls, I am my own person, and I will need to be treated as such. For the boy that will love me next, don’t bother with me unless you really want to be with me. I don’t have time to waste on you if you aren’t going to try and make something out of us. To the boy who will love me next, the last thing I would like to say is good luck, I have faith in you.

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Everything You Need To Know About The New Abortion Ban In Several States

DISCLAIMER: the following does not include any of my personal beliefs/opinions.


Abortion has and will always be a controversial and very sensitive topic for all genders. The following article delves into the details about the Alabama abortion ban that was signed to be a law which, if it passes, will be in effect January 2020 and briefly touches on the Georgia Heartbeat Bill.

Roe v. Wade (1973)

In 1973, Roe v. Wade 410 was passed in the U.S. by the Supreme Court. In short, this ruled that the Due Process Clause along with the 14th Amendment in the Constitution would work to give pregnant women the choice to choose whether or not they wanted an abortion AND should coincide with the government's personal agenda to protect the health of all who is involved. What I mean by this is that the Supreme Court decided during the second trimester of a pregnancy, abortions would be allowed. But, if it is the third trimester, abortion is to be prohibited unless the health of the mother is in danger. This law catapulted the abortion debate which is still going on today.

Abortion vs. Alabama

Alabama's governor, Kay Ivey, signed off on a bill that will basically ban all abortions, including rape, incest, any abnormality, and if the mother's life is in danger on May 14, 2019 after acquiring approval from 25 Senators . This could be a problem considering that it very much contradicts Roe v. Wade (1973). To Ivey, the bill is a reflection of the values in which the citizens of Alabama believe: all life is precious and a gift from God.

Governor of the State of Alabama, Kay Ivey (pictured above).

The governor of Georgia also signed a bill to ban abortion after detecting the slightest heartbeat which is approximately around the six-week pregnancy period (around the time most women discover that they are pregnant). Another important take on this is that despite the rift and debate that is going on between Democrats and Republicans, most Republicans believe that Roe v. Wade will be overturned. This is looking more like a possibility considering most of the Supreme Court consists of people who support the Republican party. In short, the main idea is to ban abortion in all of the United States, not just in some states like it is currently. In regards to Alabama, the bill still has not been enacted into a law and could possibly encounter delay in the Supreme Court because, after all, this is a very debated topic. For now, abortion is still legal until January 2020 or when it becomes a law.

Conditions of the Abortion Law

The conditions of the abortion law explicitly states that abortion during any stage of a pregnancy is prohibited and if any medical professional aids in the practice/procedure of an abortion, they will face up to 99 years in prison. If an attempt is made to perform an abortion procedure, an individual can be sentenced to 10 years in prison. Women who successfully get an abortion or attempt to will be prosecuted as well. However, only those who provide another with an abortion will be punished in Alabama, not the one receiving the service.

No form of abortion is allowed including: rape, incest, life-threatening abnormality, or putting the life of the mother in danger.

Alabama expected to approve controversial abortion bill

Two Sides to the Debate

Although most Republicans support the law, the Democratic party has combatted the notion of it. Many opponents of the ban state that the restriction can put the lives of many in danger and affects women of color and those who are living in poverty heavily. ACLU and the Center for Reproductive Rights have also declared that they will sue. Many young people have also reached out to social media websites such as Twitter and Instagram to voice their opinions:

Tweets from individuals who are anti-abortion ban

Many celebrities have also stated their opinions on the matter. Rihanna stated in one of her Instagram posts, "Take a look," referring to a picture of 25 Senators in Alabama who approved the abortion bill, "These are the idiots making decisions for WOMEN in America. Governor Kay Ivey...SHAME ON YOU!!!"

Although both sides clearly have their opinions on the debate of pro-life/pro-choice, one thing we all can agree on is that this will be a long process that can make or break the lives of a lot of people in our nation.

Until next time,


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