Whether it’s on nights out with your group of friends or just hanging out in the living room with everyone, if the detail you tend to try and ignore sets in, your mood can switch from relaxed to anxious. You can’t help but think about your friends who are all coupled off and seem very happy together and you can’t help but wonder why that isn’t you too.
You’ve had relationships in the past, but they haven’t ended well. They’ve hurt you and changed who you are in different little ways, you’re more guarded. You’re learning to be more careful with your crazy caring heart because you want to save it for someone special. You look at your freidns and you crave the kind of relationships they have with their significant others. You also feel the pit in your stomach and remember how empty you’ve been left feeling the last few times and wonder whether you want to sow that soil again.
You go back and forth between wanting to give the dating app a try and find someone cute right now, and waiting. People always say that your time will come and that good things come to those who wait, but patience is such a virtue and for how much you’ve been through you wonder why it is you have to wait as long as you have for a good one.
You blame yourself for being too outspoken or too clingy in past relationships and you start wondering what you could have done differently to save those past lovers’ departures.
Stop thinking like that.
Stop thinking that you aren’t as pretty as anyone else, don’t think that you are somehow worth any less than the people in relationships or that you’ve lost value because you’re single now.
Stop thinking that for the terrible way people have treated you in the past you’re not ever going to be treated right. You deserve the best.
I am sorry, so sorry that you’ve been hurt.
Stop thinking that you need to regret where you are in your life as a person because you will only continue to grow from your experiences. You’ve been tossed around bit by some hurtful words.
Words are only words and can only yield the power we attribute to them. Give that power to positivity.
Take that hurt and rip it out from the roots, plant self-appreciation and let it grow inside your crevices because when you invest that much love in yourself, you’ll feel whole in the way that you’re looking for someone else to make you feel.
Treat yourself in kind thoughts and encouraging yourself to chase your dreams. Life works in really weird ways more often than not and for whatever reason as soon as you stop looking for something somewhere it will turn up. That’s why after you lose your phone and you destroyed your entire bedroom you realize it’s in your back pocket. It’s confusing and frustrating but keep moving forward.
Don’t give up on the concept of love and being in a relationship. It’s such a natural desire to have, especially when you’re the last single friend in your group. If you take the opportunity to consider it a chance to love yourself and improve upon your relationship with yourself, you can become whole. You’ll bloom. Investing time in treating yourself right will result in you being ready when the day comes that you connect with someone on an intimate level.
When you’re ready and when the time is right you can show them the garden you’ve grown while waiting for that right person.
You are eternally paired with yourself. You’ve been born your own partner in the way that your thoughts and feelings are your own. You don’t have to be in a relationship to be loved. You are loved because you are you, so buy yourself that coffee and new book. Binge that show with your roommate and take comfort in the fact that you’ll get where you’re meant to be one day if you give yourself the time.
You are sunshine. Your garden will grow and you’ll bloom. It’s natural to be impatient, but please love yourself first. You are so worthwhile and such a blessing. Don’t take the power of your own love for granted.
