"The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds."

Why is it worth the wait? I found myself asking this question lately about everybody who's in a relationship and seeing how happy they are while wondering when my person was going to come along. How long is it going to be until you have that someone that will make you feel special? Most of the time, I reminisce seeing myself with people that I thought were the right ones and realizing that I was with them because it was the love I thought I deserved. The love I tried to give everyone else unconditionally. At this point, we did not realize that we deserved so much more. Sometimes you wonder, “What am I doing wrong? Why don’t I have someone yet?” And then I remember that it's all in God's timing. The Lord does things and sets action in motion, so when it's the right time, everything will feel different. It will feel right. I feel like the reason why half of us haven't found our person yet is that we’re still growing as well as trying to find ourselves. It’s like the Lord is waiting to send us our person because he wants us to be at a point in our lives when we're ready for it. The love we think we want or need is not it because most of us are “loving” someone out of loneliness because we’re afraid to be alone instead of it coming from sincerity.

We think of the things we do for people: The people who weren’t even worth our time that we can’t get back, but at least it was a learning experience for us to take our time. It’s sad we don’t realize it until we've had our heart broken, thinking we can never find someone better. I remind myself this is not the end, but the beginning. If I gave all the right things to the wrong person, just imagine what I can give the right individual. It's the wrong ones that mess up our potential to love, having us thinking that we're only capable to do a little when we haven’t even reached our optimum glow yet. Lately, it seems as if everyone is settling for small talk as if that is good enough when we're wanting something that goes deeper than we can think of. I want parked car conversations that are close to being therapy sessions and old school R&B love. The kind of love that makes you think about where this could go and how far. The kind of love that makes you want to be a better person, that forces you to grow while learning to accept without judgement and the kind of love that God tries to give everybody. That forgiving, understanding unconditional love and the kind of love that you know you waited for with a specific reason. That love that will make you grow closer to God and it will also make you grow to love yourself without question so you could love someone the same.

I realized that this kind of endearment is all was worth the wait. This is the kind of love that doesn't force you to change yourself unless you want to; the kind of love that you don't need, but you want because you know that you love yourself. You know how to love yourself and you don't need anybody else to love you more than you, but you want somebody too. I think our biggest problem is that when we stop finding the value in ourselves that we seek the approval through someone else's eyes. We need to start seeing the value of our self through our own eyes and not what someone else wants us to be. If we do not love all of us, flaws included because that is what makes us our own type of “perfect," then how do we expect someone else to acknowledge our worth? Do not be someone’s eye candy, but be their soul food. Sometimes I think about how lonely I am, but then I remind myself that something great is coming soon and I'm just going to have to wait for it and that if I really want it, I'm just going to have to be patient .

The worst thing you could do is not wait, try to force it and be stuck with uncertain “I love you’s” that is fueled by lust and nothing more. Having a relationship that doesn't have real feelings makes it seem like a job that you're just stuck in. When the relationship is for you, when the timing is right, you will know. That person will be your best friend, your love, the person you confide in and the calm to your storms. Together, you will motivate each other to be the best each other can be. You will also build a strong foundation for a relationship off of honesty, trust, communication, loyalty, understanding and a shared goal to grow closer to God (well, that is what I want anyways). It will be a love that is never failing. They will see all the answers to the world in your eyes, hope running off of your lips and a heart that is pure of your intentions. Waiting for the one God has sent for you, you won’t have to question it because what is for you will always be for you. Until then learn how to be alone, not with who you interact with, but who you are thinking about pursuing, especially if it is not someone you really want and you’re just trying to pass the time. Take this time to grow within yourself as much as possible and reach your full potential with your life until God feels that it is time to continue your journey with someone the Lord has done the same exact thing to. My thing is, if you wouldn’t settle for yourself being how you are now, then don’t settle for someone forever treating you based on the stage you’re going through in your life at this moment. Because soon, if not now, you will know your worth, value and the strength of the love in your heart which can not be taken from you. It is an unfathomable, but enlightening feeling. Once you know your worth, you will know the love you want for yourself.

“Waiting is a sign of true love and patience. Anyone can say ‘I love you,' but not everyone can wait and prove it’s true.”