I know what you're probably thinking. "Is there actually such a thing?" Yes. Yes, there is. Not all of us are as basic as you think we would be.
That sounds crazy, right? A not-so-basic sorority girl. Who would have thought? I know I can speak for myself when I say that going into recruitment, I was terrified. I thought I was going to stick out like a sore thumb among all the girls, and not in a good way. Even I had a certain stereotype about the girls I was going to be surrounded by. I thought that I was going to be the only one who dressed the way I did, or thought the way I did, or talked the way I did, etc. That all of them were going to be these blonde barbie dolls, with perfect hair, makeup, dresses, and everything in between. That I had to be this certain "type" walking into it, to fit in. I think that I was more stressed out the week before recruitment started than I have in my whole entire life. Because I was trying to find dresses that fit the sorority look, and do my hair and makeup like everyone else. Kind of like I was trying to blend in with everyone else, like I wasn't my own person.
I think any girl will say that recruitment probably the one week that you will feel the worst about yourself in your whole entire life.
Because of the way all the movies, and TV shows reflected sorority life, I had this perception going into it, that that is all what Greek Life was about was the parties and boys and looking perfect all the time. And that really terrified me. Because I have never been a partier. And I never fit in with that crowd. And I loved my guy friends, but when it came to talking to new boys, I was awkward as ever. And I mean awkward. I could just see myself walking into a party, and begin talking to a boy and that awkward pause in the conversation creeps up. Then he finds an excuse to leave and walks away. Which is a painful thought. Yikes. But it happens. Anyways, I loved wearing t-shirts and no makeup and not giving a crap about what anyone thought. But I convinced myself I was going to be that outsider among all the other people around me.
It was a big refresher walking into it, that I wasn't the only one like myself. That there were girls in the exact same mindset as me. They had the exact same fears, expectations, and worries. They are the girls that I found that on a Friday night will sit and watch movies and eat cookie dough, but also if I wanna go out, they will go out with me and we will have a grand ol' time.
So to the not so typical sorority girl:
Its okay if you don't go out with everyone else on a Friday Night. Its okay if you don't date a fraternity boy. Its okay if you love Jesus, but you maybe mess up on the nights when you go out. It's okay if you don't go to every fraternity party. Girl, you aren't alone. But to the girls that do go to parties all the time, or are dating a fraternity boy, props to you girl. I wish I had the dance moves that you do and could get down like you do. You Go Glenn Coco.
A good sorority celebrates diversity. We aren't all supposed be the same. Our differences are what make your sorority, well, your sorority. Know that your sisterhood goes deeper than what you look like or what you do on a Friday night. You find where you are supposed to be, with the sisters that you're supposed to have. Who will wear big t-shirts with you, with buns on the top of your head and get cookout with you at two A.M. There will be some people who you are too much for, and some people you are too little for. Those are not your people.
There is a reason not everyone is in the same sorority, remember that.
Love,
The not so typical sorority girl
