After watching twelve seasons of "Grey's Anatomy," the search for "my person" was on. The bond between Meredith and Cristina is something I believe everyone longs for the dance parties, heart to hearts in each other's beds, and everything in between. I was determined to find someone who was my better half and completed me.
The hunt for my Cristina Yang began.
As I was thinking about finding "my person," I questioned those surrounding me and soon realized I had people all around me who were qualified. I was just belittling their abilities to be a Cristina because their struggles, selfishness, and inability to be who I wanted them to be. Though it ends up, I was being the selfish one.
With the realization I just discovered, I was reminded of the vows we make to our loved ones on our wedding days: "To have and to hold. For better or for worse. For richer or poorer. In sickness and health. To love and to cherish. Till death do us part."
These vows are promises we are dedicating to someone we love despite hardships we might face. It dawned on me, though, why are these oaths only made for marriages? Obviously, I know they are a little different and more specific for the ones we wed to, but taking the basic foundation of the vows, they can apply to our everyday friendships.
When I make a connection with someone, I plan on making them my ride or die. I am in it for the long run. Snapchat streaks and spontaneous road trips have nothing on the bond I have with someone I call a friend. I invest everything I have into friendships and I expect nothing less.
There are many times we celebrate the good times with these so called friends, but how often do we run when things are bad or they are in trouble? Taking a deeper look, I realized that sometimes I run away rather than sticking around.
This unspoken vow I had made to my friends was not being upheld, and I was deeply saddened by that.
The people closest to us are typically the ones who can hurt us the deepest. Intentionally or not, our emotions are being mistreated by the actions they are making. Drug abuse, alcoholism, being self-absorbed, and two-sided are only a few to list off. Each time someone you care about falls into one or more of these categories, we cannot help our hearts from being wrenched a little.
They say, "Bad company corrupts good character" and I let that be an excuse to leave the side of some of my best friends. I allowed the world to tell me that the actions they were taking were only harmful to them and myself.
As that was true, I forgot that sometimes the weakest soldiers need someone to carry them back to strength and I would want someone to do the same for me.
Back to the vows, "For better or for worse."
We all experience trials that some people might be ashamed of, but why do we let that stop us loving one and another with our full potential? The next time you question where your friendships stand, remember the promises you are making to one and another. A friend is someone you can turn to no matter the time of day. Someone you can laugh till you cry with or cry till you start laughing. Someone who makes fun of your stupidest moments but also brings to
"Iron sharpens Iron as one sharpens another"- Proverbs 27:17.
