Heartbreak: the 10-letter word that no one wants to go through but that eventually happens at some point. For some people it lasts longer than for others. For those who get over it quickly, they are the lucky ones. The whole process is very tough, but one must pull themselves together and move on. Whether you are going through a heartbreak now or have gone through one in the past, I am sure that advice from friends and family helped a lot. Here are some things one must hear, even if they don’t want to, after having their heart stabbed and crushed.
1. Be the bigger person.
After getting your heart broken, all that you want to do is rant about the person who did you wrong. With social media at your fingertips, it is very easy to go over to Twitter and express how you feel, sending him/her to hell for messing with your heart. Do not do this, as great as it might make you feel. First, no one needs to know what is going on in your life. Second, people might feel pity for you; you don’t need anyone’s pity because you are better than that. Be the mature one and don’t let your feelings take control. Also, do not go and delete them off of social media; that is very immature. Leave them there as a friend so they can see what you are up to and how well you are doing without them in your life.
2. Time will heal it all.
Nighttime before bed is the worst. Closing your eyes, all the memories of all the good times and bad times will flash back. It will be your life film playing in there. This will definitely last for a while, but little by little, it will dissolve. Time definitely heals it all; you must just be patient and keep yourself busy so you don’t think of it much. The first heartbreak is the worst and takes the longest to heal; the ones after that will pass by much quicker. At least, you learned something through the heartbreak, and now you know what may work the next time around and what doesn’t.
3. Everything happens for a reason, it just wasn’t meant to be.
“If you truly love someone, let them go. If they come back, it’s meant to be. If not, it wasn’t meant to be.” Remember that quote because it is one of the truest. I believe that everyone has a written destiny in place and someone was put in your path for a reason. You may not realize this reason right away, but with time you will think back and notice why it didn’t work out.
4. “There are plenty of fish in the sea.”
After a rough heartbreak, it may seem like the sea is empty. This is not true. There is always someone else out there way better and more deserving of you. Within a few months, the fish will start showing up.
5. You must love yourself first before loving anyone else.
This is very important and it's something you should never forget. You must love yourself, value yourself, and know what you are worth before giving yourself to another person. A heartbreak will open your eyes and make you realize this. You must start taking better care of yourself, so do not eat your feelings away. Start going to the gym and exercise regularly -- it is definitely a great place to release all that anger built up inside. Try to be successful and the best version of yourself. Simply be happy with who you are.
Thank the one who broke you for making you stronger.
