Growing up, I was never really sure if I was more introverted or extroverted. I always enjoyed being in social situations and meeting new people but I also loved my alone time. As I got to college and suddenly social situations presented themselves literally around every corner, I soon learned that at heart I truly am an introvert. Being an introvert means that social situations require the expenditure of energy while extroverts gain energy in the same situations. Most introverts have the stereotype of being shy and awkward and certainly there are some introverts out there like that. I, on the other hand, have noticed I can be just as outgoing as I can be shy and awkward. Social introverts like myself often experience both ends of the introversion-extroversion spectrum. What are some of the signs of being a social introvert?
We are selectively social
One of the most common misconceptions about introverts is that we do not enjoy being social. However, social introverts can be chatty, exuberant, and even the life of the party. The trick is to learn how to be selective in which social gatherings we attend as we will likely be completely drained after. Of course we are open to social outings but we may opt for a chill night at home as well. This can be confusing as we seem to be outgoing at times while seeming withdrawn at other times.
We prefer real talk
Introverts find small talk meaningless and taxing. For that reason, introverts are very particular about who they get to know. Often, introverts prefer a small, close knit group of friends with which they can create meaningful relationships. Introverts would much rather talk about what’s on their mind than make small talk.
We love social media
Social media is a wonderful tool for the social introvert as it provides a platform to interact with others but at controlled intervals. We have control over the parameters of the social interaction and walk away at any time. We can be connected to the outside world without actually going outside. This is an excellent way to conserve energy meant for actual social interaction.
We need alone time
Of course, the staple that makes an introvert an introvert is our love and desire for alone time. After a long day spent with others, introverts love to return home to meditate, read, watch Netflix, or any other solitary activity. We absolutely have to have time to recharge our batteries. Social introverts will reach out to others after we feel refreshed and recharged.
We are often misunderstood
Others are often perplexed by our need to recharge. As social introverts, we have the appearance of explosive energy making it confusing and even worrisome to our friends when we do take that much needed “me time”. My friends will often ask me if I’m ok when I barricade myself in my room for an afternoon. I have to reassure them that I’m ok and I’ve just reached my threshold for social interaction for one day.
