This past week my husband, Justin, and I went to the beach for a little vacation. The last day that we were sitting in the sand, I convinced him to go buy me a Boogie Board — something that I definitely did not need. Despite him telling me I wouldn't use it, he bought it anyway while I relaxed in the sun. He came back, and I used it approximately three times before realizing that almost drowning wasn't my thing. After a few hours — and a couple of sunburns that would make grown men cry, we decided to head back to our hotel. Justin picked up our board and started to walk the opposite direction. When I asked him what he was doing with it he responded, "I'm walking over to give it to that little girl." He walked over and handed it to a little girl and walked back to me with the biggest smile on his face and said, "That just made her day." As we walked back to the car, I looked back at this family. The mother and father were both getting into the water with their children and their new boogie board. Justin was so happy that he could bring this family closer that he really didn't need anything else to make his day. This may not seem like much, but the fact that this man, my husband, didn't even have to think about what we were going to do with that board warmed my heart and reminded me of his most important quality. He is always doing things like this for others. He loves to make people's day by giving them things they might not have otherwise had.
To any of the women looking for their forever — find a man with a good heart and goofy spirit. I've spent so much time telling my husband that he is "too nice" or "too naive," only to realize that this is one of the many things I love about him. He's not "too" nice or naive; he just likes to make other people happy. Finding a man that has an amazing heart will make for the best life you could ever imagine. This man is going to be the one that treats you the way you deserve to be treated. He's going to be the type of man to leave you little notes expressing his appreciation for you. He's the one that will make you laugh with his terrible dance moves. He'll be the one that will take a selfie with you during your wedding ceremony. Most of all, he's going to be the one that makes you want to be a better human being — and nothing can compare to being with someone who makes you want to be better. Justin is constantly doing all of these things for me, but he doesn't do them for any other reason other than to see me happy. Of course he has faults, but I can forgive every single flaw of his as long as he always remains the guy that makes others happy.
If I were talking to any of my friends, I would tell them that they don't deserve the most attractive man in the world, or the man that makes the most money, and I don't say that because I don't want my friends to have something good; I say that because I do want them to have something great. I wish for every one of my friends that they can find partners as wonderful and caring as the one that I have found. I hope for them that they will find men that will never leave them questioning how much they are loved, because that's what they deserve. If their spouse ends up being the most handsome man and has the handsome heart to match, perfect. But please, don't settle for someone who only possesses outward beauty.
Anyone could be with the "best looking" or the "richest" man in the world, but it will never compare to the husband who finds joy in making other people happy. I say this because although women say that they are really looking for a "good man," oftentimes I think they get too immersed in the material things instead of looking for a partner that's going to make them happy emotionally and spiritually. Find the man that's going to be there when nobody else is, the one that's going to spend the day watching movies when you don't have enough money to go out or the one that's going to give his new boogie board to a little girl just to see her smile. There's nothing more attractive than a man that can be happy just because he got to help someone else. I found a man with a good heart, and he's the best decision I've ever made.
