Everyone gets to that point in their life where they feel no matter what they do they are never happy…no matter how hard they try they can’t please anyone…but, for many of us, people like me, it’s hard to get yourself back.

You see, I have made a lot of questionable decisions ever since I graduated high school. While I don’t regret any of them because they taught me some very valuable lessons, I do however wish I could change how much it affected me. I am a very sensitive person. I don’t like pain, I don’t like unhappiness and I certainly don’t like fear. The fear of losing someone you love or have become deeply close to, the pain of losing that someone later, the unhappiness that a person causes you, but you can’t get away because of a very firm reason.

It is so hard for many of us to leave these situations. We think many times of just packing up and leaving and starting over with something new. No money, no car, nowhere to go…but, we figure these things out before we leave most of the time, or if not, we are always quick to find a solution.

I’m here to ask you to be kind to those that are trying to find their voice or trying to find it again…it’s a daily struggle to get back out there after getting hurt once. It only gets harder the more we get hurt and the deeper the knife cuts.

To those that are trying to find your voice again, don’t give up. Sure, you get the typical people care about you lectures and the you’re not trying hard enough lectures, but they don’t know…they don’t know what you are going through. They don’t know your background, your life story. They don’t know what it’s like to be in your situation because every goes about their life a different way. We all take things differently. Some people automatically get over break-ups, for many of us, it takes us time. Some people fall on their face (literally) and get right back up and laugh it off like nothing happened, some of us (me) sit there on the ground, cry for a few seconds then laugh like an idiot because of how embarrassing it was.

No matter how much time it takes you personally, that doesn’t mean that you are not making progress. You don’t have to graduate college by the age of 22, you don’t have to be married by 25, you don’t have to have kids by the time you’re 30, you don’t have to be a surgeon if you don’t want to just because that is a family tradition, you don’t have to go by society standards. Break the status quo (yes, I just made an HSM reference). Be the truth. Be you. Be the future. Because when you find that voice, your voice, nothing is impossible.