​How I Know Feminism Doesn’t Exist

​How I Know Feminism Doesn’t Exist

My mom paved the way for our family, go do the same for yours.

Marches, movements, walks, races, stampedes, protests, riots; all for feminism.

I know I can potentially face harsh criticism due to the title and subject of this article, but even though I’m a male, I’ve had plenty experience with the opposite sex in my 22 years. I’ve had female teachers and professors, I’ve been pulled over by female police officers, I’ve had female bosses and mentors, but most of all, I’ve had a mother.

I also have a father; their names are not important, though. I respect both of my parents, I have the utmost respect for both of my parents. But, my mother, my mother is extraordinary. If this article wasn’t about feminism, then I would go on and on and about my dad, he’s super cool too! But, what seems to be half of the country distraught over President Trump being the president, I figured I would talk about my mom since she’s a female and all!

My mom is a Senior Executive at a Fortune 500 company. My mom makes more money than my dad. My mom controls all the finances. My mom is the breadwinner. My mom crushes the game in corporate America. My mom climbed the corporate ladder. My mom is successful. My mom has every single right my dad has. My mom is a female.

My dad works a blue-collar job for the utility company. My dad is very well compensated for someone who doesn’t have a college degree. My dad drives my brother back and forth to football practice. My dad cooks dinner every night. My dad runs the carpool for brothers SAT prep class. My dad picked me up from my friend's house before I could drive myself. My dad unloads the dishwasher every night. My dad is a male.

So basically what I’m trying to say is that my parent's roles in life are reversed.

No, that is not what I am trying to say or portray by any means. What I’m trying to say is, this is normal, this is my family’s life, this is many other peoples' lives, this is modern day America.

My family, which includes my misogynist self, mom, dad, and brother, have an on-going joke in our house. We always kid that if something (god forbid) happened to my mom unexpectedly, my dad would literally have no idea what to do first. Pay the mortgage? Pay the utilities? Which bank even holds the mortgage? Pay the car lease? Do we even lease our cars??? All joking aside, my parents are cool with the roles that they have, it’s what keeps their marriage strong, it’s what makes them, them.

Many of you may think I’m some bigot who lives in some weird reverse household. But, in reality, I’m just a 21st century male who has a mother that never saw being a female as an issue, who has a mother that knew her gender would never pose a problem, who has a mother that is not a feminist, and I am forever thankful for that.

So ladies, march on! You’ll be out there in the rain, sleet, hail, and snow; I cannot stop you, we cannot stop you. But, we hear you, we respect you, we are equal. There’s no point in trying to convince anyone any further, people are going to fight for what they believe is right, more power to you!

But, shout out to MY MOM! Not only are you the strongest, most successful PERSON, not woman, PERSON, I know, you know your worth and you know you have the power to do ANYTHING you want. Thanks for instilling this in me. Thanks for knowing we’re all equal.

And, to my pops, now is the time I should thank you for letting your wife take the reigns in life, but wait, I don’t have to thank you. You didn’t ‘let’ her take the reigns, you didn’t let her do anything, she did that all on her own. So thanks, dad, thanks for accepting your wife for being more than just your wife; both of your views will be with me wherever and forever.

To the people who feel President Trump, people like myself, or men, in general, are a threat, please take a step back. Please reread this article. Please understand that my family is not the only family who operates like this. Go make a name for yourself in whatever field may be your desired. Stop marching dressed as female reproductive organs, please. Go conquer the world, my mom sure did!

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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Why The Idea Of 'No Politics At The Dinner Table' Takes Place And Why We Should Avoid It

When did having a dialogue become so rare?


Why has the art of civilized debate and conversation become unheard of in daily life? Why is it considered impolite to talk politics with coworkers and friends? Expressing ideas and discussing different opinions should not be looked down upon.

I have a few ideas as to why this is our current societal norm.

1. Politics is personal.

Your politics can reveal a lot about who you are. Expressing these (sometimes controversial) opinions may put you in a vulnerable position. It is possible for people to draw unfair conclusions from one viewpoint you hold. This fosters a fear of judgment when it comes to our political beliefs.

Regardless of where you lie on the spectrum of political belief, there is a world of assumption that goes along with any opinion. People have a growing concern that others won't hear them out based on one belief.

As if a single opinion could tell you all that you should know about someone. Do your political opinions reflect who you are as a person? Does it reflect your hobbies? Your past?

The question becomes "are your politics indicative enough of who you are as a person to warrant a complete judgment?"

Personally, I do not think you would even scratch the surface of who I am just from knowing my political identification.

2. People are impolite.

The politics themselves are not impolite. But many people who wield passionate, political opinion act impolite and rude when it comes to those who disagree.

The avoidance of this topic among friends, family, acquaintances and just in general, is out of a desire to 'keep the peace'. Many people have friends who disagree with them and even family who disagree with them. We justify our silence out of a desire to avoid unpleasant situations.

I will offer this: It might even be better to argue with the ones you love and care about, because they already know who you are aside from your politics, and they love you unconditionally (or at least I would hope).

We should be having these unpleasant conversations. And you know what? They don't even need to be unpleasant! Shouldn't we be capable of debating in a civilized manner? Can't we find common ground?

I attribute the loss of political conversation in daily life to these factors. 'Keeping the peace' isn't an excuse. We should be discussing our opinions constantly and we should be discussing them with those who think differently.

Instead of discouraging political conversation, we should be encouraging kindness and understanding. That's how we will avoid the unpleasantness that these conversations sometimes bring.

By avoiding them altogether, we are doing our youth a disservice because they are not being exposed to government, law, and politics, and they are not learning to deal with people and ideas that they don't agree with.

Next Thanksgiving, talk politics at the table.

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