​How I Know Feminism Doesn’t Exist

​How I Know Feminism Doesn’t Exist

My mom paved the way for our family, go do the same for yours.

Marches, movements, walks, races, stampedes, protests, riots; all for feminism.

I know I can potentially face harsh criticism due to the title and subject of this article, but even though I’m a male, I’ve had plenty experience with the opposite sex in my 22 years. I’ve had female teachers and professors, I’ve been pulled over by female police officers, I’ve had female bosses and mentors, but most of all, I’ve had a mother.

I also have a father; their names are not important, though. I respect both of my parents, I have the utmost respect for both of my parents. But, my mother, my mother is extraordinary. If this article wasn’t about feminism, then I would go on and on and about my dad, he’s super cool too! But, what seems to be half of the country distraught over President Trump being the president, I figured I would talk about my mom since she’s a female and all!

My mom is a Senior Executive at a Fortune 500 company. My mom makes more money than my dad. My mom controls all the finances. My mom is the breadwinner. My mom crushes the game in corporate America. My mom climbed the corporate ladder. My mom is successful. My mom has every single right my dad has. My mom is a female.

My dad works a blue-collar job for the utility company. My dad is very well compensated for someone who doesn’t have a college degree. My dad drives my brother back and forth to football practice. My dad cooks dinner every night. My dad runs the carpool for brothers SAT prep class. My dad picked me up from my friend's house before I could drive myself. My dad unloads the dishwasher every night. My dad is a male.

So basically what I’m trying to say is that my parent's roles in life are reversed.

No, that is not what I am trying to say or portray by any means. What I’m trying to say is, this is normal, this is my family’s life, this is many other peoples' lives, this is modern day America.

My family, which includes my misogynist self, mom, dad, and brother, have an on-going joke in our house. We always kid that if something (god forbid) happened to my mom unexpectedly, my dad would literally have no idea what to do first. Pay the mortgage? Pay the utilities? Which bank even holds the mortgage? Pay the car lease? Do we even lease our cars??? All joking aside, my parents are cool with the roles that they have, it’s what keeps their marriage strong, it’s what makes them, them.

Many of you may think I’m some bigot who lives in some weird reverse household. But, in reality, I’m just a 21st century male who has a mother that never saw being a female as an issue, who has a mother that knew her gender would never pose a problem, who has a mother that is not a feminist, and I am forever thankful for that.

So ladies, march on! You’ll be out there in the rain, sleet, hail, and snow; I cannot stop you, we cannot stop you. But, we hear you, we respect you, we are equal. There’s no point in trying to convince anyone any further, people are going to fight for what they believe is right, more power to you!

But, shout out to MY MOM! Not only are you the strongest, most successful PERSON, not woman, PERSON, I know, you know your worth and you know you have the power to do ANYTHING you want. Thanks for instilling this in me. Thanks for knowing we’re all equal.

And, to my pops, now is the time I should thank you for letting your wife take the reigns in life, but wait, I don’t have to thank you. You didn’t ‘let’ her take the reigns, you didn’t let her do anything, she did that all on her own. So thanks, dad, thanks for accepting your wife for being more than just your wife; both of your views will be with me wherever and forever.

To the people who feel President Trump, people like myself, or men, in general, are a threat, please take a step back. Please reread this article. Please understand that my family is not the only family who operates like this. Go make a name for yourself in whatever field may be your desired. Stop marching dressed as female reproductive organs, please. Go conquer the world, my mom sure did!

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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American Or Christian?

Can you really be both?


This is a thought that has lingered in my mind for a very long time.

Personally, I hate news and politics. It's depressing and it seems like both parties (and people in general) just don't get it. Political conversation gets on my ever-loving nerves and literally gets me down in the dumps for the day.

I just simply don't watch it anymore. There is too much negativity.

That doesn't mean that I am uniformed. I am not advocating for ignorance or anything like that. I prefer to read and figure out my information from sites "in the middle."

As I was eating dinner with my wife the other day we started talking about the new Abortion laws in Alabama and Georgia. As a Christ-follower and a staunch defender of Biblical inerrant, I detest abortion.

Before you read any farther, you must understand something: This article is not about my defense of my beliefs regarding hot topics like abortion or homosexuality. I do not have the time to write about said topics now. I am just asking you to accept what I believe for the sake of the article.

But, anyway, these abortion bills. I can make a pretty good case that they are Constitutional because they are protecting the Life (one of the Rights given to American Citizens) from others. Yes, I know the arguments against said point but continue with me please.

This led our conversation to talk about Homosexual marriage, something that I am against as well. And not just because of Leviticus but because of the New Testament as well.

But, shaking my head, I said something that my wife seemed to agree with:

"As a Christian, I know it's wrong and I cannot agree with it. As an American, I see no reason why it should be illegal. Unless your choices infringe someone's Rights, you should be free to do what you wish (technically speaking)."

This is my dilemma. Well, actually it's not a dilemma. I know that I am a Christian before I am an American. I love this country greatly, and I know how blessed I am to be born here. For all the hate this country gets (and some of it is deserved) and all the problems we have (and we have a lot), we are shoulders above other countries in many ways. I am so thankful for all the men and women who have served to protect me and keep me safe. I'm thankful for a lot of things. And I am proud to be an American.

But my identity in Christ comes first. This is why I do not get into politics much. I don't really care at the end of the day. Because while America has been blessed, we still have work to do here. And this is not my forever home. This is not where I will spend eternity.

I try and respect everyone's opinions, and I earnestly try to love everyone, even when they trash and disrespect my beliefs and convictions. But I must put my call to Christ about anything that has to do with this nation. I will pray for ALL our leaders because I was told to do so (I prayed for President Obama when he was in office). And I will be here to support this nation. But I cannot put it above Christ's commands.

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