Are You Going To Cry Or Boss Up? Why Not Both?

Are You Going To Cry Or Boss Up The Next Time Tragedy Hits? Why Not Both?

Holding your head up high and moving forward is vital, but not neglecting yourself emotionally is too.


Heartbreak. Trauma. Grief. Tragedy. Just when we begin to expect the unexpected in life, a tidal wave of chance floods the foundation of our lives. I have always believed that it is not so much what happens to you in life that is important, but rather, it is how you respond that makes a world of a difference. When the unanticipated strikes, however, reacting is often the first answer.

Maybe you're the type of person who cries at the end of every romantic-comedy, cares and puts forth effort in every relationship you maintain or is hurt easily by the thoughtlessness of others. There is no shame in being one, two, or all three of these. Or maybe you're someone who has been hurt in the past and refuses to feel such pain again, so you maintain a wall that no emotional spear can penetrate. This is okay too.

Regardless of what kind of emotional being you are, know that it is acceptable to feel that feeling. Sit in it for a while, marinate in the feelings of fury, fear, sadness, pain, or betrayal for a bit. These feelings are valid simply because they are. No one feels such strong, seemingly debilitating emotions for no reason. Whatever or whoever ignited your fire gave you that reason, or possibly multiple, for a purpose: for you to realize that it is not what was done or said that ultimately determines the future, but it is what you are to do with this lesson, loss, or learning that will.

Feel those feelings. Own your shit. Cry, scream, throw your phone, go for a drive, work out, eat your favorite food, do whatever you need to do. Then move forward. Don't move on, per se, because the small and big events that change who we are cannot and should not be glazed over, but move forward. Ask yourself, "What can I do to let go of this feeling?" Do not carry hatred, pain, or sadness with you. If you never get it off your chest, you'll never be able to breathe. Instead, carry fond memories of what was, appreciation for the lessons that now are, and plans for what is to come. If you wronged someone, apologize from the heart, and forgive yourself in the meantime. If someone wronged you, forgive, yet, never forget the lessons the wrong taught you. If you lost someone who meant the universe to you, look for them in the small things in your daily life, and keep them by your side in other ways. If you find yourself asking "Why?" in the midst of tragedy, look at what good came immediately after it, and what it did for the hurting.

"Bossing up" does not have to mean acting as if nothing ever happened. Instead, it is the acknowledgment that you are not the same person you once were. You are likely much wiser, more self-aware, understanding, or cautious; and your eyes, heart, and mind may be more open or wary. Whether crying or remaining stoic is your preferred processing method, appreciate those moments, think about what you do or say before the fact, and take your next step confidently, because you never needed to "boss up" anyway, you already are one.

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A list Of 15 Inspiring Words That Mean So Much

A single word can mean a lot.

Positivity is so important in life. A lot of times we always go to quotes for empowerment but I have realized that just one word can be just as powerful. Here is a list of inspiring words.

1. Worthy

Realizing your self-worth is important. Self-worth can really make or break a persons personality. Always know that you are worthy of respect. And also, never compare yourself to others.

2. Courage

Be courageous in life. Life has so many opportunities so do not be scared to grasp any opportunity that comes your way. You have the ability to do anything you have your heart and mind set to do, even the things that frighten you.

3. Enough

When you are feeling down and feeling that nothing you do is ever good enough, know that you are more than enough. And yes there is always room for improvement but when it comes to my self-worth I always have to remind myself that I am enough.

4. Blessed

Be thankful. A lot of times we forget how blessed we are. We focus so much on stress and the bad things that are going on in our lives that we tend to forget all of the beautiful things we have in life.

5. Focus

Focus on your goals, focus on positive things, and focus on the ones you love. Do not focus on things that will keep you from not reaching your goals and people that do not have good intentions for your life.

6. Laugh

Laughing is one of the best forms of medicine. Life is truly better with laughter.

7. Warrior

Through the good and the bad you are a warrior. Be strong, soldier.

8. Seek

Seek new things. Allow yourself to grow in life. Do not just be stuck.

9. Faith

During the bad times, no matter the circumstances, have faith that everything will be all right.

10. Live

Start living because life is honestly way too short. Live life the way you want to live. Do not let anyone try to control you.

11. Enjoy

Enjoy everything that life has to offer. Enjoy even the littlest of things because, as I said before, life is short. And plus, there is no time to live life with regrets.

12. Believe

Believe in yourself and never stop. Believing in yourself brings so many blessings and opportunities in your life.

13. Serendipity

A lot of times we look for things to fill an empty void that we have. Usually what we are looking for comes when we are not looking at all. Your serendipity will come.

14. Create

Share your ideas with the world. Creativity brings change to your life. However you chose to use your creativity do not be scared to show your intelligence, talent, and passion.

15. Love

The world is already full of so much hate, so love unconditionally with all your heart.

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The Rejuvenating Qualities Of Panama City Beach

There are definitely some healing properties in these ocean waves.


We have gone to the beach quite a few times this summer season. We live around 2 hours away and try to make it to Panama City Beach at least once a week. It's a venture for sure, but compared to the 7-day drive from The Rockies of Colorado to the Peanut Capital of the World, Dothan, Alabama (a time in which no one has heard of) we can't really make any excuses.

Now, I am sitting here typing away in the early morning while watching a summer storm blow in over the sea but, make no doubt about it, the ocean and its shores are one of the most healing, rejuvenating places on this planet. There is a calm in the break of the waves on the shoreline, and yet it pairs with an unspoken knowledge that the ocean is this uncontrollable force.

This isn't a speech on saving the planet and being eco-friendly, recycling and watching out for our beaches, which is a topic I am very passionate about and a post I would totally create. This is simply an open letter to those who might need to get away in order to revive their souls.

If you are anything like me, you have emotions pulsing through you at all times, ideas about everything under the sun, a longing to explore and adventure, and a deep need for rest, all at the same time. There are not many things in this world that truly satisfy me. There is a lot of disappointment. There is a lot of wrongdoing and suffering. It's overwhelming.

That is why I come to the beach. It removes the overwhelming things.

You see, there is nothing complicated about the waves (unless you make it complicated, but we stay away from people like you). They are simple. They are peaceful. And 99% of the time in my life that is what I need, simplicity and peace. I over-complicate things myself, I make excuses and I feel hurt in most moments of my life. I lived an exposed, vulnerable lifestyle that drains me.

That is why I love the ocean. It replenishes my drained soul. It energizes me. It is motivating and inspiring, relaxing and unwinding.

I don't pass out advice. I never have. I do, however, try living an honest life, always in the moment, so I can share my experiences in hopes that others might find them helpful. That is precisely why I am writing this. Because if you could just get to the beach, to a shoreline, it might change you. Seeing this vast landscape changes your perspective on the situations in your life you thought might overtake you.

The ocean speaks. It heals. It tells your worries to cease and your mind to rest. It tells your body to relax and your busy schedule that there IS time to take a moment. Don't forget to take a moment for yourself this summer season.

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