I Don't Have To Be In My House To Feel Like I Am Home

I Don't Have To Be In My House To Feel Like I Am Home

Simply put "home is where the heart is".

You've heard it before, the old saying "Home is where the heart is." But what if home is not a physical place? What if home is the company that you surround yourself with or memories you hold onto. What if home is fragments of ideas that make you comfortable that are incorporated into your life each day. What if home is just feelings.

All of these can give you the same sense of belonging or stability that can be found in a house or a certain location.

For me, home is my dad's embrace as he quietly tells me how he has missed me, reminding me of the nights I would wait up for him to get home from work. Home is the smell of my mom's shampoo and our laundry detergent. It is the sound of dog paws clicking around on the hardwood floors. It is the feeling of laughing until your stomach hurts. Singing in the car at the top of my lungs with my brother as the DJ and always staying on your toes because you never know what the next song is going to be.

But these can be anywhere, my house, a rental cabin in North Georgia, or across the country.

So don't worry when I tell you I didn't go back to my house for Thanksgiving. I was plenty at home. I was the most at home than I have been in a while. With puppy snuggles and then being rudely woken up at 7 AM with a wet nose on my face. Or family laughing around a roaring fire in the backyard fire pit. Singing (very loudly) in the kitchen while cooking dinner or just making cookies. Doing homework at the table while my mom grades papers, both of us complaining back and forth to each other and sharing frustrations.

Home is also where you feel you can be your complete, authentic, true self. Home is where you feel comfortable to ugly sob or laugh so hard your eyes water and little tears stream down your cheeks. Home knows your quirks and flaws and loves and embraces them because they are part of you. You can be completely transparent and be at rest despite the discomfort that can so often accompany transparency if in the wrong setting.

I think the most interesting part about all of this is how different "home" looks for each individual.

It can take endless forms and yet it is somewhere where we all are so relieved to find and to return to over and over again.

I think that finding whatever your "home" is is important. You should find that place where you feel you belong and feel comfortable. Allow yourself to be transparent. Let down the walls that we so often build up throughout the day. Let them down and be your true self and be comfortable with who that person is.

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When You Make A Girl An Aunt, You Change Her World In All The Best Ways

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest girl in the world.


My brother and his wife recently blessed our family with the sweetest bundle of joy on planet earth. OK, I may be a little bias but I believe it to be completely true. I have never been baby crazy, but this sweet-cheeked angel is the only exception. I am at an age where I do not want children yet, but being able to love on my nephew like he is my own is so satisfying.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a very protective person.

From making sure the car seat is strapped in properly before every trip, to watching baby boy breathe while he sleeps, you'll never meet someone, besides mommy and daddy of course, who is more concerned with the safety of that little person than me.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her a miniature best friend.

There is something about an aunt that is so fun. An aunt is a person you go to when you think you're in trouble or when you want something mom and dad said you couldn't have. An aunt is someone who takes you to get ice cream and play in the park to cool down after having a temper tantrum. I can't wait to be the one he runs to.

When you make a girl an aunt, she gets to skip on the difficulty of disciplining.

Being an aunt means you get to be fun. Not to say I wouldn't correct my nephew if he were behaving poorly, but for the most part, I get to giggle and play and leave the hard stuff for my brother.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her the best listening ears.

As of right now I only listen to the sweet coos and hungry cries but I am fully prepared to listen to all the problems in his life in the future.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the best advice giver.

By the time my nephew needs advice, hopefully, I will have all of my life lessons perfected into relatable stories.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a number-one fan

Anything you do in life sweet boy, I will be cheering you on. I already know you are going to do great things.

When you make a girl an aunt, she learns what true love is.

The love I have for my nephew is so pure. Its the love that is just there. I don't have to choose to show love every day, I don't have to forgive, I don't have to worry if it is reciprocated, it is just there.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest person in the world.

I cannot wait to watch my precious nephew grow into the amazing person that I know he is going to be.

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Goodbye School, Hello Real World

I'm ready for ya!


It's starting to hit me.

I've been in school, year after year, since kindergarten. Maybe even pre-school!

Now, I'm about to graduate with my bachelors in communication and I couldn't be more proud of myself. I'll say it. I often sugarcoat it or suppress it but d*mn it. I'm going to applaud myself. It was hard work. It took a lot of motivation, determination, (caffeine), and willpower to get to where I am today. I worked my ass off.

That being said, I can't help but think... What is life without due dates? What is life like without scrambling to turn in an assignment that's due at 11:59 PM? What is life like with actual sleep? Sleep? I don't know her.

Like I keep telling my boyfriend and my parents, I don't have it all figured out. At least not right now. But I will, and I'm in no rush to land my dream job right now. If anything, I want to take a year to myself. I want to travel. I want to sleep in if I d*mn well please! I want to read as many books as I want. I want to write till my fingers fall off (OK, maybe not that).

You get the jist.

I'm free. I can do and be whatever I want. And you know what? That's terrifying.

I'm lost. I've followed this structure for so long. Now what?

I don't have all the answers yet. But for now, at least right at this very moment, I'm so thankful to have been able to receive such an amazing education. And to be able to say I'm graduating with my bachelors in communication at 21 is an accomplishment in itself.

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