FAT Is Not An Adjective

FAT Is Not An Adjective

You aren't toenails either.... you HAVE toenails

FAT. Who suddenly transformed this simple, harmless word into an insulting adjective? Because it boggles my mind. Fat is something EVERYONE has. I don't care if you are the size of a toothpick — there is fat on your body. Hell, it's inside your body too. Every single one of our bodies has fat on it.

Fat should not be considered a negative word. Who gets the almighty power and defines what fat is, whose body is "fat" and whose is not? NO ONE. That's my point. We all have our different ideas on who we think is "fat" or "not fat," and that’s why it is unfair to use it as an adjective. Some people may think a certain size is fat while others may not. You can ask someone that is the size of the titanic or the size of a pin, and they will call themselves fat or be unhappy with how they look. That is where we go wrong and is the root of our insecurities. We are fueling our minds with this word that we focus so deeply on, and it doesn't help the fact that we constantly compare ourselves to others. The fact that EVERYONE has different opinions and different attractions to various things makes it difficult to feel confident, because one person may think one thing and one may think another.

If we happen to hear someone call someone else fat, we suddenly begin to either compare ourselves to them “fat” wise or transfer the comment onto ourselves. Who knows what the next person would say about them? They may think they are gorgeous and have the perfect body. It’s all a matter of opinion, and fat shouldn’t be a word up in the air for people to grab and spit at others and at oneself. I've heard this a million times, and I know that someone isn't toenails — they have toenails. We can turn any word into a negative connotation if we teach people to do that. If all of a sudden having too much or too little of some random verb on our bodies holds a negative connotation, we create a totally new irrational insecurity.

We cannot please everyone, and we shouldn’t have to. It is so unfair to call someone fat — the same way it is unfair to call someone skinny. Who made up the standards as to what is skinny and what is fat? Like I've been saying, everyone's opinion is different, as well as irrelevant. As long as WE love our bodies, then WE are spectacular. We weren't born to tear others down and call them fat or skinny.

When I’m listening to conversations and hear people say "oh she/he is fat," I ask myself: according to who?? Because... 1: No one should call ANYONE fat regardless of their size. And 2: someone may be "fat" to them but "skinny" to someone else. We need to steer away from putting labels on people's body size.

It also bothers me because someone can have more body fat percentage than someone else but be healthier in many other ways than someone with little body fat. The only thing we equate fat with when we use it as an adjective is physical looks, and that needs to be eliminated completely. It’s different from saying "oh she has brown hair or blonde hair," because that is a known fact that cannot be opinionated. Someone's size shouldn't be discussed or discriminated upon because EVERYONE is a different size and build. You also have zero idea on someone's medical history, which makes it all the more inappropriate.

And like the picture says: YOU AIN'T FAT, YOU HAVE FAT. Just like EVERYONE ELSE. Same way you don't say you are hair, you HAVE hair. Never describe someone's body and negatively talk about them using the words fat or skinny because your words only hurt and change absolutely nothing; every one of us is still hot as hell.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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Your Health Journey Is A Marathon, Not A Sprint

Perfection takes time.


When you first start to do something, you have all of the motivation in the world to accomplish that goal set out in front of you, especially when it comes to being healthier. The problem is as you continue through this journey and food and laziness kick in, motivation slips. It's human, and it happens to everyone no matter how physically strong they are.

Trying to be healthier doesn't always mean losing weight. It can be so your knees don't ache as much, so you don't feel as out of breath climbing stairs, or any goal you have set for yourself. Being healthier is personal and different from person to person.

I will be the first to admit that there are plenty of changes I would love to make about myself. From my weight to my body type and many other things about myself inside and out. I am by no means the most confident person about how I look, but I have worked hard for the past year to be an overall healthier person.

Becoming healthier isn't about looking thinner or fitting into a specific size of clothes. It is about taking care of yourself from eating better to working out more. There comes a feeling of confidence in what your body can do if you put a little love in it.

Perfection takes time, and I know firsthand how frustrating trying to be healthier can be.

Pizza tastes so much better than salad. It is so easy to fall into a rhythm of something that seems never to change whether that is your weight or your mile time. Sadly, you can't build a city, or become healthier overnight.

We see people who are thinner, curvier, smarter, faster, and so much more than us. We all waste time comparing ourselves to people around us and on our timelines, but some of our biggest strengths are our individuality and the gift of getting back up after falling down.

All I can say is, please don't give up on your goal of being healthier because this is solely for you. We can have a great support system in the world and have everyone in our corner, but that isn't enough.

You need yourself. You need to know that if you don't entirely put yourself in this journey, then you won't fully succeed. Your commitment to bettering yourself can keep you going even if you want to give up.

Your motivation may not be at its peak level right now, and you may have every cell in your body screaming at you to quit. Don't do it. Prove to yourself that you can keep going no matter what. Not giving up will be worth it. The results and taking the hard way will make you a stronger person inside and out.

You can do this. You can do anything you want to accomplish if you just believe in yourself. You need to understand that becoming healthier takes endurance. There will be periods where you slow down and may not be going at your fastest pace. The difference is that you are not giving up and you are still trying and moving.

Don't treat becoming healthier as a sprint: short term and quick. That mentality will only leave you feeling deflated and defeated. It is a life-long marathon of pacing yourself and pushing yourself further than ever before.

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