Falling in love in your 20's is an experience most adults say is "too young", or a "lesson for what you want in life". Living in a generation where dating has become a game of cat and mouse, uncertainty, and lines not drawn clearly, the idea of being "in love" is a pipe dream, for those who don't want to be in love, or know how to go about it.
We believe falling in love is a series of sparks, a series of dates and the firm belief that we "just know" when we meet "the one". This generation paints dating with a broad brush, nitpicking the smaller details in hopes that they'll soon fade out of existence, choosing to only focus on the bigger pieces-- making sure that they meet your standards, whatever they may be while we admire the elder generation for sticking it out and truly being with someone their whole life, no matter what came their way.
We long for this spark, this feeling of being truly loved and accepted by someone with all of our flaws on the table, a burning anxiety of not being accepted as a whole. Yet... with this generation wanting to be accepted as a for their-selves, being whole, will we be able to let it be and love someone for them, and truly get to know them beyond "talking" and being loyal to someone they're talking to, instead of being officially together? Truly, can this generation rid themselves of this asinine way of thinking? It's hard to truly say, it's up to us, the 20 year olds, to truly break free and let life take us where it wills us, and to do what we can with it and reach our goals, while trying to maintain a relationship and grow not only as a couple, but as individuals.
Falling in love in your twenties is scary; it's a constant worry about whether or not the person we've found is our forever or our lesson. Whether or not the relationship will be a week, casual hook-up scenario, or something that's worth fighting for. We don't always know what'll happen, and that is where we fall flat-- we fear the unknown in a relationship.
The question is:
Are we ready for it?
Can we really go beyond this awkward dating culture and truly get to know someone without ulterior motives, a generation of trust, love, and compassion? And are we even capable of going outside of our comfort zone and be able to allow ourselves to be vulnerable with one another (a feat that's not accomplished easily for some). With being vulnerable.. to accept flaws and truly grow and evolve as a generation, and as human beings?
The answer is simple:
It's us, and only us. It's only up to us to make these ideals and wishes happen.
So...
Shall we?
