Falling In Love

Falling In Love

Don't forget the little things.

Everyone has heard of that magical thing called love. It's portrayed on everything we watch; movie trailers, commercials, TV Shows, music and paper advertising. Everyone wants to fall in love someday; Others may already have and are living thief happily ever afters.

What is love anyways? Is it just the release of a chemical in our brain? Is it some fuzzy feeling that disorientates us when we are near that person? Is it some form of wild infatuation that makes us do crazy things? Not a lot of people know what the real meaning of love is but everyone has their own interpretation of it.

As a hopeless romantic I have a very old fashioned look on love. I adore little notes being left around for each other to find and brighten our days; small surprises like their favorite flower, candy or CD; going out on romantic (but not expensive) dates; cooking dinner for each other after the other had a long day; just being able to have fun with each other ,be true to who you are and always showing each other how much you mean to one another.No one these days whether they claim to be in love understands the importance of the little things.

In this generation it's hard to find someone who realizes that love isn't just about sex; isn't just about yourself; isn't about having your way because you "wear the pants" in the relationship. There are two people in a relationship for a reason. Although to have a healthy relationship you do need to take care of yourself, you also invited in someone who has chosen to stand by you when you are down and help you back up, the least you can do for them is return the favor. Communicate with your loved one about what you expect from this relationship don't ever lie or keep something from them; don't be insecure about your relationship, you both chose each other for a reason; Most important of all... DON'T FORGET WHY YOU FELL IN LOVE IN THE FIRST PLACE.

Love, real love is a once in a lifetime experience. When love leaves you it takes a part of you with it, leaving a hole behind making you feel incomplete without them. Everyone will think they've been in love more than once but if you don't feel anything for those "loves" now, it was never real. If you lose someone you truly loved, really loved, it would hurt when you thought of them. You would still be able to hear their voice, smell them, feel their touch on your skin. Them being gone would take up your body and mind, clouding all your senses. Love is a beautiful thing but it can cause a lot of pain if you manage to lose it.

Now when you start to fall in love it feels like you are on cloud nine. Things are going great and your loved one can do no wrong. Some people refer to this as the "Honey Moon Phase". I truly do not believe in the existence of this "phase". When you really love someone and want to be with them, yes you want to impress them and show off a little, but you also want them to love you for who you really are in your heart of hearts. You need to be true to you who you are when you meet them otherwise they will not fall in love with you they will fall in love with who you pretended to be.

So if you are 100 percent real with yourself and who you want to be with them than that cloud 9 feeling will never end, it will grow as the two of you grow together. You will always cherish each other and their faults as some would put it. If you really loved them though, they would never be considered faults because you would have fallen in love with them for every part of who they are unconditionally and would never even consider looking down upon any part of them.

Love is unconditional, irrational, emotional and painful... but it's one of the best things in life and a great accomplishment if you find it and keep it.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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House Hunting At Its Finest

It's incredibly stressful and takes way too long!


House hunting is hard. I thought at first it would be fun, exciting, and interesting. But now, I'm tired and bored and just want to give up.

I've been looking for a house for a month now and I knew it going in to it, it would take a while. I knew that I wouldn't just walk into the first house and be like, "this is it, this is the one".

But, when you look at 6-10 houses every time you search a day, it gets stressful and tiring.

When I started looking at houses it was because I was planning on getting a house with some friends to rent out for the next 3 years while at UCF. All because I didn't get a spot-on campus with the lottery, I got waitlisted. So, I need to look for housing to secure a place to live next fall.

Now, my dad wants to turn it into a small business. Buy a house, rent out the rooms for a reasonable price, cheaper than some apartments, and make a profit.

It sounds like a good plan.

But then you have to factor in: location and how far it is from campus, the price range in which you could make a profit, the number of bedrooms and bathrooms, the price per square inch, the property taxes, if the house needs work or not, upgrades, improvement, parking availability, etc. The list just goes on and on.

It's hard to find the "perfect" house.

I want to be able to make it "home" for the next 3 years. I want to make it somewhere where I can hang out, have friends over, and love to live in.

Every time I walk into a new house, I automatically think, "what would I do to this room? Or that?". I think of furniture and décor. I think about how I would design it and make it ours.

I even made a Pinterest board, one for home décor and one for bedrooms.

I feel like I'm going overboard but I can't help it.

I get excited when it comes to the designing aspect, but my parents have to be so nit-picky. They came up over the weekend to search for houses with me and every time we walk into a house I hear: "the carpet is stained, needs to be removed", "the kitchen is outdated, needs to be upgraded", "the bathroom needs work", "the wall has a hole", "not enough bathrooms" and so much more.

It's not like I don't chime in with comments either.

I do put in a fair share of my personal opinions about the quality of the houses too.

But, at this point I wish we could just settle on something. Again, I know this takes time but I just get anxious.

So, we are going into the 5thweek and still haven't agreed on a house. My mom has her picks, my dad has his, and I have mine. And none of them overlap. Frankly, I don't get a "say" in what my parents chose since they will be purchasing the house. But, I get to live in it, my friends are the ones who will be paying them rent. So, I feel like my opinion matters. Whenever I ask questions or give input, they talk over me.

As if, I wasn't even there!

Yet, that is how the ball rolled. Wow, I'm borderline whining over here. It's not like I'm not grateful but, I wish I was valued as an adult helping in this situation.

Well thank you for coming to my "TED" talk! And reading about yet another annoying and trivial struggle of mine. I'll write again soon.

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