So, we all have our best friends from high school who we hung out with all the time. This is the person you went to homecoming with when you didn't have a date, and it's who you would hang out with at the football games. They're the friends you refer to as your "best friend forever", but little do we know that that's rarely the case.
There are a handful of people that I called my best friend. I had my phases with them, and they helped me overcome different "life lessons" in the process. They helped me decide what kind of person I wanted to be, and what bad decisions I would make. With all of these "friends", I did everything. We got our nails done, went to the football games, called our crushes, dyed our hair; but even though we did all of these things, we never genuinely liked each other.
OK, so you're probably confused about what the heck I mean, and its understandable. All of these "friends" of mine disappeared from my radar as I went through the remainder of my high school years. Every year, one or two would just casually wander away and move on to their next best friend; We all did. To me, it's crazy to think that someone you loves so much could just decide one day that they didn't want to have anything to do with you anymore. This is what I mean when I say that we didn't like each other. We did for a moment, but obviously not long enough to realize that this person actually meant something to you. I think this also depends on the person though because you start to realize that when a person isn't going out of their way to see you or talk to you in the first place, what is going to change? Nothing.
I know when I'm friends with a person, I am friends with a person. I will be there for them no matter what. Even if it happens they stop talking to you for a period of time, or move away. I will still be there to answer your phone calls at 3 o'clock in the morning when you find out that the person you had a thing for, is actually a tool. I guess I don't understand what the point of being a friend is if you can't talk to, or go out of your way for them. You know I'm here, so why not pick up the phone and call? I would do it for you> I have done it for you. There are only so many times that a person can exert themselves for a friend and not get anything back. It's sad to see something that was once so meaningful to the both of you, just fizzle out like a sparkler. Is that all a friendship is? Is friendship only a temporary way to use someone to feel good about yourself only to drop them in the end? What is that?
TO me, a friendship works both ways, and it doesn't work when only one person is putting all of the effort into the relationship, because at the point its exhausting. You're drained from the inside out because you've been so busy making them happy, that there's no time for your happiness anymore. High school friendships are a lot like this. It's that time in life when people want to feel good about themselves, and not worry about anyone else's happiness. The world is your oyster, and so are a lot of the people you called a friend. It's confounding to me, that someone could go through so much with a person, and then not even think about it the next day. Without friendship, a lot of people wouldn't know what to do, or who they were, and here some people are, throwing it away like it was last week's issue of People magazine; you're old news.
I don't know if there's such thing as having a "best friend forever" because people change, and lives change, and you can't count on anyone to make you feel good. She's never going to ask you to lunch to catch up, she won't apologize, and I'm not going to bother. I have spent so much time being there for other people, that I threw my own well-being to the side. I can't do that all the time, not when it's only me who is hurting. So, don't spend your time wondering why that person didn't call you back, or why you're no longer Facebook friends; Instead, make new friend that you KNOW will be there for you when you need them. There's other fish in the sea, so don't get hung up on the one that didn't hold on.