I was never the kid with a lot of friends. I was friendly with a lot, but I only ever had one or two that I was close with. I can remember the day I met my first childhood friend. I was six and she was my next door neighbor. If I hadn’t met her my life would be completely different since she later became my cousin. My childhood wouldn’t have been as fun without her to be honest. We may not be close now, but back then we were partners in crime. Making glitter snowmen in the bathtub and doing our own egg hunts.
I’ve had different best friends over the years. I don’t talk to some of them anymore, but I still think about them. Whether it was the countless sleepovers we had or the goofy things we did. All of my childhood friends had some significance in my life and made me who I am today. Some of them hurt though, because they didn’t last as long as we thought they would. We had big plans for our friendships, but none of them seem to pan out.
The best friends I have right now I didn’t choose. They just became my friends and never left my life. We’ve had a few periods where we weren’t close or we didn’t talk, but we always find our way back. We can have the worst fight or be in relationships that puts distance between us, but we’ve still managed to keep the friendship.
I love my best friends and I wouldn’t want my life to be without them. They’ve listened to my boy drama over the years and gave me advice when I needed. They’ve been there for me when I thought I had no way out, made me laugh until I cried, and dealt with my pickiness on everything. They’ve given me memories that I love to look back on.
I hope they realize how much they mean to me. I would do anything for them, just like I know they would do anything for me. Those are good friendships. Not all friendships are healthy. I’m sure we’ve all had our fair share of those. Even those friendships shape us in some way. I still wouldn’t be who I am today if it weren’t for the bad friendships. I would rather have a few really close, good friends as opposed to a lot of okay friends.
Friendships grow and change. Not all friendships are meant to last. Just because you go through a period of not talking, doesn’t mean you won’t be friends again later down the road. A horrible fight doesn’t have to end a friendship either. If you manage to find a connection with someone, you’ll know how your friendship needs to play out.
There were times where I thought my friendship was over with someone. We hardly talked or saw each other. We didn’t know much about each other lives anymore. When I found out I was being cheated on, I called her and she dropped everything to help me move out a few days later. There have been friends that I knew the connection was over and we had just grown apart. Then there have been others that I knew no matter what we would always have each other’s back. Those are the people I want to thank for being my best friend and being in my life.
