Facial Expressions Speak Louder Than Words

Facial Expressions Speak Louder Than Words

If facial expressions could form sentences, mine would equate to paragraphs.

We all know the saying: “to wear your heart on your sleeve.”

Let us agree that there is a time and a place for this.

Sometimes wearing your heart on your sleeve is admirable and honest, while other times, it’s vulnerable and terrifying.

Sometimes, wearing your heart on your sleeve is unintentional or accidental. Some of us are simply more prone to this “let-your-guard-down” sort of behavior and that’s perfectly respectable.

In my case, I manifest this “let-your-guard-down” sort of behavior through my facial expressions.

There’s not a moment out of the day when someone couldn’t look at me and guess exactly what I’m thinking or what my internal reaction to a situation is.

Many would read this and think that my biggest problem here (or saving grace, depending on how you look at it) is that the game of “poker” will never be for me.

Those of you who thought this would be 110% correct.

If facial expressions could form sentences, mine would equate to paragraphs.

One time, when I was 14, I found myself in physical therapy due to a cracked growth plate and snapped tendons in my right ankle.

Yes, I was involved in sports at the time but this accident was a result of anything but athletics…

I am reluctant to share with you that I received a cracked growth plate and torn tendons because in a moment of fury, I decided to start kicking an air mattress that a friend was trying to hide beneath. At the time, there were a mass number of people in my room and I was quickly becoming overwhelmed.

The friend was hiding because they knew I was getting anxious wanting them out of my space but they insisted on not listening.

I mentioned how my facial expressions reveal my inner thoughts but it seems that my physical response to this situation might have served the same purpose…

I admit, this response was incredibly rash and immature but at the time, I felt that it got my point across. However, my point wasn’t the only thing that was being projected in this moment. As my foot hit the air mattress, my 14-year-old body became an object in motion. I knew a little something about this because as I was learning in science at the time: “a body in motion stays in motion unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.”

Before I could complete my projectile curve across the room, my ankle became that unbalanced force and broke my fall (and my growth plate).

Anyways, back to the physical therapy appointment. I was already embarrassed enough about the situation but my mom insisted I share with the doctor the real reason for my injuries. Clearly, she knew that the doctor saw through my lie when I said “I’m not sure what really happened…I tripped and fell down my stairs somehow!”

As I sat on the examination bench with my mom to my right and the doctor towards my feet (holding my right ankle in preparation to be taped) my thoughts grew increasingly more transparent across my face.

The doctor began taking the tape roll and going around and around my ankle in a “figure 8” fashion. As he went around and around the tape got tighter and tighter and my face got redder and redder. My eyebrows furrowed while my nostrils began to flare. This was one of those times when I felt that at any moment, the heat of my breath would warm up enough to become fire and prevent the doctor from wrapping my ankle any tighter.

My mom recounts that I began “glaring holes into him” and “he was clearly getting uncomfortable” as this 14-year-old girl was giving him the same soul-burning stare an infuriated reality T.V. show wife might give to a scripted and disappointing spouse: purposeful, terrifying and full of meaning.

However, in this instance, the meaning I was trying to convey was: “Sir, you’re wrapping my ankle so tightly I think it might explode.”

Nonetheless, my mom made me go outside and wait in the car while she went back and apologized to my physical therapist who was only trying to help me and do his job.

Needless to say, the next appointment was achingly awkward and I left with a very loosely taped ankle and a shattered sense of self that no amount of tightly wound tape could repair.

This instance has always stuck with me (no tape pun intended) because it was one of the first times I realized the fault behind the saying: “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”

I suppose in all my years of hearing this advice, I never processed that “having something to say” might also mean what you choose to say with your facial expressions.

After all, were we not raised with the understanding that actions speak louder than words?

I’m here to tell you that they do and occasionally the act of facially expressing yourself is the biggest culprit of them all.

Cover Image Credit: Sophia Winter

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50 One Liners Drunk Girls Say

It happens to the best of us.

We all know it when we see it; drunk girls are always easy to spot and will say or scream at least two of following things below on a night out after a few (too many) drinks.

1. I'm not even drunk

2.Do you want to get food?

3. Is he cute?

4. What should I get to drink?

5. Should I text him?

6. I'm literally fine.

7. I'm going to cry.

8. I'm leaving right now.

9. This is my favorite song.

10. Will you dance with me?

11. I haven't even had that much to drink.

12. I hate him.

13. Why won't he text me back?

14. I can't believe this.

15. Do you want a shot?

16. Ppppllleeeeaasssee.

17. Who was that?

18. Let's go to a different bar.

19. I'm never drinking again

20. How did I get this drunk?

21. Let's stop at Five Guys.

22. I'm calling an Uber.

23. Why do I still like him?

24. I'm calling him.

25. Will you help button my body suit?

26. Will you take our picture?

27. Why is Uber surging already?

28. Let's late night.

29. I'm just really upset.

30. Do you want a drink?

31. What should I make my Instagram caption?

32. Do I look fat?

33. Get in this picture.

34. OMG, *insert crush* is at *insert bar*, let's go!

35. He texted me.

36. I just found my husband.

37. Look at him, omg.
38. Wait, is that __ from biology?

39. I am so hungry.

40. He asked me to come over.

41. Where are you going?

42. I am not going over to his house.

43. I am going home.

44. I'm exhausted.

45. I'm going to throw up.

46. Do you have a hair tie?

47. I'm bored.

48. I think I'm dying.

49. Will you call me in the morning?

50. I'm going to sleep so good tonight.

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13 Things You Should Know Before Going to College

To the high school student or incoming college freshman

1. Take as many AP or IB exams as you can in high school and score well on them

If you score well enough on these tests, you could potentially get out of certain classes in college. It doesn't seem like a big deal in high school, but when you are in college, taking the least number of classes as possible to graduate is the goal (at least for me).

2. Math and science classes in college are nothing like they are in high school

Calculus and general chemistry were the worst classes I have taken in college. Do not take them in the same semester as a freshman. If you don't have to take them, don't. These are two classes that if you could AP test out of them in high school, DO IT.

3. You do not need to know your major before entering college

I went to college undecided. I decided that I needed to take a wide range of classes to figure out what I actually wanted to major in. I started college aspiring to go to dental school, and now, I'm studying communications and fashion. And I'm still graduating on time!

4. Making friends may not be as easy as people say

I know this might sound scary, but I am just preparing you. People love to bombard college freshmen with the idea that everyone on your floor will be your absolute best friend for life. They love to tell you that you will never feel lonely. Your floormates may not be destined to be your best friends. You will feel lonely at times, and it is okay.

Friends will never just come to you. In college, especially at a large university, you really have to be outgoing to find friends. Even when you do find your "squad," you have to remember that these people have not known you your entire life, like your friends from home. Your new "friends" could leave you at bars, ditch you for someone else, and do sketchy stuff to you that your friends from home would never do because frankly, they've only known you for a couple weeks or months.

5. You probably won't get straight A's

Classes in college are weird. In some classes, your only grades might be made up of two test grades and one group project grade. In other classes, you might have homework almost every night, multiple tests and quizzes, and a curve at the end of the semester. In my time in college, I have realized that the more assignments in a class, the easier it is to get a high grade. The fewer assignments in a class, the harder it is to get a high grade.

6. Rate My Professor is your Bible

Never take a class in college with a professor who has awful ratings on Rate My Professor. You will not do well in their class. I made this mistake with my Calculus class first semester freshman year. I didn't know about the website and ended up taking the class with a teacher rated 1.7 out of 5. A majority of the students failed the class that semester. Always check Rate My Professor.

7. Office hours should be your best friend

This is something that I even have to work on myself. But honestly, go to your professors' office hours. You will be able to get questions answered and will be on their good side. This is how you get those A's!

8. Look both ways before crossing the street, ESPECIALLY if you are wearing headphones

As a college student, you will feel invincible, especially when crossing the street. Please look both ways. We don't need anyone being hit. It happens, more than you think. So please look both ways, especially when you have headphones in!

9. You don't have to be best friends with your freshman roommate

It can be very exciting when you go to your school's Facebook page and finally find someone to be your roommate. Many incoming freshmen have a tendency to put A TON of pressure on this roommate relationship. If you and your new roomie get along super well and you want to spend a lot of time together, that's great! But it is totally normal to need space from that person because let's face it, you are living in a box with them. Some freshmen roommates end up being best friends, some end up being just friends, some end up being acquaintances, and so on and so forth. All of those are perfectly okay!

10. College really is not as hard as everyone says it is

"College students have no time to live." "How are you still standing if you are a COLLEGE STUDENT?!" "Now I know that you are a college student and you're really busy but..." At first, college might seem very overwhelming, but you will quickly get a hang of it. If you can prioritize your assignments, you will be okay. You won't be cramming to write a 10-page paper in a 2 hour period unless you are an insane procrastinator. I know people that have full-time jobs, go to college, and still manage to have fun on the weekends. It is possible, you just have to make succeeding a priority!

11. You might not need a textbook for a certain class, even if your professor insists you will

Renting your books from Amazon or another similar website is the best way to get your books in college. A lot of the time you won't even need a textbook for a class, even if your professor insists you will. Wait to rent before you actually have an assignment that you absolutely need the book for. No need to waste money on something you don't need.

12. Get involved

You're only in college for 4 years, so make the most of it. Getting involved could mean playing an intermural sport, joining a club, joining a sorority or fraternity, etc. Now maybe you think you are too cool for these things, but these are great ways to get your mind off of school and to make friends that have similar interests as you!

13. The boys/girls in your freshmen class will still be as immature as the people you went to high school with

One summer doesn't change many people. Many freshmen students expect to come to college and all of a sudden be surrounded by mature people that they could potentially marry. But the reality is, many of these people are still young and immature. Let's face it, if your main goal in college is to find your husband/wife in those 4 years anyway, we need to find you a better goal.

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