Facial Expressions Speak Louder Than Words

Facial Expressions Speak Louder Than Words

If facial expressions could form sentences, mine would equate to paragraphs.
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We all know the saying: “to wear your heart on your sleeve.”

Let us agree that there is a time and a place for this.

Sometimes wearing your heart on your sleeve is admirable and honest, while other times, it’s vulnerable and terrifying.

Sometimes, wearing your heart on your sleeve is unintentional or accidental. Some of us are simply more prone to this “let-your-guard-down” sort of behavior and that’s perfectly respectable.

In my case, I manifest this “let-your-guard-down” sort of behavior through my facial expressions.

There’s not a moment out of the day when someone couldn’t look at me and guess exactly what I’m thinking or what my internal reaction to a situation is.

Many would read this and think that my biggest problem here (or saving grace, depending on how you look at it) is that the game of “poker” will never be for me.

Those of you who thought this would be 110% correct.

If facial expressions could form sentences, mine would equate to paragraphs.

One time, when I was 14, I found myself in physical therapy due to a cracked growth plate and snapped tendons in my right ankle.

Yes, I was involved in sports at the time but this accident was a result of anything but athletics…

I am reluctant to share with you that I received a cracked growth plate and torn tendons because in a moment of fury, I decided to start kicking an air mattress that a friend was trying to hide beneath. At the time, there were a mass number of people in my room and I was quickly becoming overwhelmed.

The friend was hiding because they knew I was getting anxious wanting them out of my space but they insisted on not listening.

I mentioned how my facial expressions reveal my inner thoughts but it seems that my physical response to this situation might have served the same purpose…

I admit, this response was incredibly rash and immature but at the time, I felt that it got my point across. However, my point wasn’t the only thing that was being projected in this moment. As my foot hit the air mattress, my 14-year-old body became an object in motion. I knew a little something about this because as I was learning in science at the time: “a body in motion stays in motion unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.”

Before I could complete my projectile curve across the room, my ankle became that unbalanced force and broke my fall (and my growth plate).

Anyways, back to the physical therapy appointment. I was already embarrassed enough about the situation but my mom insisted I share with the doctor the real reason for my injuries. Clearly, she knew that the doctor saw through my lie when I said “I’m not sure what really happened…I tripped and fell down my stairs somehow!”

As I sat on the examination bench with my mom to my right and the doctor towards my feet (holding my right ankle in preparation to be taped) my thoughts grew increasingly more transparent across my face.

The doctor began taking the tape roll and going around and around my ankle in a “figure 8” fashion. As he went around and around the tape got tighter and tighter and my face got redder and redder. My eyebrows furrowed while my nostrils began to flare. This was one of those times when I felt that at any moment, the heat of my breath would warm up enough to become fire and prevent the doctor from wrapping my ankle any tighter.

My mom recounts that I began “glaring holes into him” and “he was clearly getting uncomfortable” as this 14-year-old girl was giving him the same soul-burning stare an infuriated reality T.V. show wife might give to a scripted and disappointing spouse: purposeful, terrifying and full of meaning.

However, in this instance, the meaning I was trying to convey was: “Sir, you’re wrapping my ankle so tightly I think it might explode.”

Nonetheless, my mom made me go outside and wait in the car while she went back and apologized to my physical therapist who was only trying to help me and do his job.

Needless to say, the next appointment was achingly awkward and I left with a very loosely taped ankle and a shattered sense of self that no amount of tightly wound tape could repair.

This instance has always stuck with me (no tape pun intended) because it was one of the first times I realized the fault behind the saying: “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”

I suppose in all my years of hearing this advice, I never processed that “having something to say” might also mean what you choose to say with your facial expressions.

After all, were we not raised with the understanding that actions speak louder than words?

I’m here to tell you that they do and occasionally the act of facially expressing yourself is the biggest culprit of them all.

Cover Image Credit: Sophia Winter

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10 ways of teaching kids how to use the bathroom

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Toilet training can be one of the most difficult yet necessary things which every parent has to do for their child. Many people often have troubles in properly teaching the kids how to use the bathroom. If you are also among those people, then don’t worry because we have some ways that will help you in properly teaching your child regarding the use of bathroom. Read the article below to find out all the ways and decide which ones would be most accurate for your child. You can also check topbabygears.com to get more idea about kids health and necessary gears.

1. Find out the proper time

Many parent start the teaching process before the age of 1.5 years which becomes a bother for the kids. In this way, they are unwilling to learn and parents feel it as a bother to teach them. The recommended age of teaching kids how to use bathroom is between 1.5 – 2 years. Get to the right age first and then start teaching your child by arranging a potty bowl from the market. 

2. Go shopping with your child

To bring an interest in your child, one of the best ways is to go shop out with him or her. Ask your child that what color potty bowl would he want. Explain him in words why is it used and how would it help him. Bring an interest in him by buying the one which he selects and having some toys bought as well. This will help the child have an interest towards using it as well. 

3. Plan a reward party

If you feel that your child is not ready to get out of the diapers, then plan a reward party. Convince your child by telling him or her that if they learn how to use bathroom properly, you will plan a “Goodbye diaper” party for him which will have various gifts and presents. Focus on the fact that you need to get the child into consent for him to learn properly. 

4. Teach by videos

Often a virtual image or video is likely to help the child in going to bathroom. With the use of some cartooned images and videos commonly found on youtube.com, you can also ask your child to repeat the acts just like they are being done in the videos. This will make him teach the use of bathroom in a very short period of time. 

5. Make stages

Turning the whole procedure into small stages can also help the child and the parent. For example, you can go for a clothed try at first where the child can sit on the chair or potty bowl fully clothed. This can help him understand the proper position. Next, ask him to go for a try in diaper. Going in diaper means that gets one step closer to going naked. Finally, convince him to go naked. These 3 stages would be helping the users in making it easier for the child to slowly learn the use of bathroom. 

6. Make routines

Make daily routine to spend some time in assisting your young one in learning the use of bathroom. Start off with less time and with each day add more time until your child is able to do it by himself. If daily routines are not possible, then have a session after every two or three days at the start and then bring it down to a daily program. Even though, this is a slow process, it is one of the most effective ways to teach kids how to use bathrooms. 

7. Make comparison

Many children learn their best when they are compared with others. Try saying your child that his other friends have grown up and they are actually using bathroom properly. By providing a comparison, you are ultimately bringing the courage in him that if others can do it, he can do it too. Comparison also brings self-willingness towards anything and your child will be making use of bathroom there and then. 

8. Listen and resolve

It might be possible that your child is facing some issues during the use of potty bowl or toilet chair. To assist him, try to listen up to him or her and resolve the issue. For example, the child may have an issue that the potty bowl is quite small for him or that he is having a difficult time in using the bathroom for any other reasons. In whatsoever case, try your best that the child doesn’t have any issue at all and he does every activity in a satisfying manner. 

9. Don’t punish

Above, we mentioned rewards if the kid does it in the right manner. However, if he doesn’t, then don’t go for punishments. Don’t hide his toys if he doesn’t do it right. Many parents might feel that punishments can help the child learn faster since they would not want to be punished. However, punishments can lead to a fear and instead of learning, the child will either completely fail or will take a lot of time in learning the use of bathroom

10. Avoid automatic flush

Earlier, public places like malls had automatic flushes installed but now this trend is getting to home as well. Make sure your child doesn’t use a seat which has automatic flush. This might confuse him or restrain him from flushing. Ultimately, he won’t flush even if there is a manual flushing system and no one would want that. Therefore, one of the best methods to teach your child on how to use bathroom is avoiding the use of an automatic flush. 

Conclusion

Mentioned above are the 10 ways of teaching kids how to use the bathroom. We are sure that these tips will definitely be helpful for you and your child will be able to learn the use of bathroom chair or potty bowl in a short period of time. Make sure you go easy and not too harsh at all times for the best learning. 

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4 important cat care tips you must need to know

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When a person becomes the parent of fur babies, he or she must take a huge responsibility for wellness and happiness of own pet family members. It is quite tough for taking care of a living thing more than machine because life is a delicate and precious thing. Especially for new pet owners because they face difficulties and lack of ideas without proper experiences. There are very easy simple cat care ideas which can make feline parents crystal clear about how to care in basic. I got some ideas about complete cat care and some health-related question answers from Nadia Ruby of heymeoww.com cat blog. Thanks to her, that she has written these things detailed on her blog, which made my confusion completely out.

Keep your kitty happy

A happy cat makes a sweet home. Keeping your kitties happy is really important. Give them attention by playing together, cuddling, petting. Having enough private space for daily activity is necessary for mental wellness. Kitties are easily depressed and bored if there is no proper entertainment so they need to play with toys, balls, etc. Cat tree or condo with scratching posts is a great thing for napping or sitting or playing whatever they wish. They are mostly chatty little beings and also demand your attention when they talk to you. Therefore meow them back no matter you understand or not because they appreciate it.

Keep your kitty Healthy

The top most important thing to do. The unwell feline will not be happy anymore and it cannot have a long lifespan. The medical check-up is needed yearly or every six months. Make sure fur babies have annual vaccinations. Be aware of feline sickness symptoms like abnormal behaviors, diarrhea, eyes and nose discharge, vomiting etc. Teeth should be brushed every week and once a month for professional dental care. Groom daily and give them a bath every 3 days if needed. Check the skin condition while grooming. Neutering and spaying are important to avoid unwanted litters, some health, and behavioral problems.

Keep your kitty safe 

Keeping indoor is the best thing to make them safe unless you have big land property and garden. Outdoor cats have more chance to be infected by diseases and parasites. Sometimes they accidentally chew poisonous plants which are a really lethal danger. It is ok to let them enjoy outdoor environment but need to keep in sight. Apartment living cats must stay indoors for safety from vehicles and stray animals because sometimes feral ones carry Rabies virus which can be transmitted through saliva from bite wounds. Injuries from catfight are higher in the breeding season.

Keep the good health with balance diet

One of the most important things to provide your cats with the well-balanced diet. It is up to you for choosing canned, cooked or dry food. As they are carnivores, their main nutrients come from meats and fish. Never force them to be vegan. Predators are never going to be vegan. Avoid harmful human foods like garlic, onion, salt etc. Feeding sweet and creamy snacks will give them nothing but only diabetes and obesity. Chubby cats are cute but not quite healthy. Therefore do not overfeed your feline and avoid worthless risky foods.

Provide proper litter box

The litter box is so necessary for furry fellas just like humans need the bathroom. Without proper litter box, they will spot on your bed, cloth piles, sofa or carpet as their own bathroom. If this case happens, owners have a higher chance of stepping into poopy traps by accident. Litter box must be half in size bigger than your cat, must be changed with new litter every 2 days, must be put in a less populated area of the home for privacy. Most of the newcomer kittens or adults are need to be trained to use the litter box.

Provide warm comfortable bed

Of course, furry friends need own private bed even though you let them sleep on your bed. All cats are the fan of luxurious comfortable feeling for resting or napping. So the bed must be enough warm, soft and comfy. Little furry princess and prince should have a sweet yummy dream to smile.

These are important basic facts but also very simple to understand what you need to care in general. The newbie feline parents do not need to be panic of not knowing what to do. Enjoy and make happy kitty with a happy home.

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