Normally, girls won't ever put themselves in a situation that could land them face-to-face with an ex-boyfriend. I mean who the hell would want that? Obviously that relationship came to an end for a reason, maybe it was a mutual parting or maybe it was pretty awful. Either way, nobody should want to rehash that experience.
But, maybe it’s not an ex-boyfriend you run into, instead it’s someone who used to be your best friend.
Seeing someone who was, at one time, the closest person to you is way harder than seeing any old fling. After months and months apart from an ex-boyfriend you’ve probably realized how terrible they were for you and how glad you are to have them out of your life - but that doesn't always happen when friends ‘break up.’
There’s probably been plenty of nights when you looked into her social media, you know, just to check up and see that everything is going OK. Whether she gets a new boyfriend or posts a cute picture of her dog, instead of hearing all about it like before, now you see it via iPhone screen and resort to ‘liking.' When you stalk an ex-boyfriend, you just about hate every thing he’s doing, but when you see your ex-best friend's life, you can’t help but be happy for her, but sad for yourself.
Most of the time we put on our best face for guys. We have our makeup looking perfect, we try to be in a good mood whenever they're around, and just overall put the best version of ourselves out there. Friends are completely different. To be honest, they are lucky to catch you in anything besides yoga pants and the bun you went to sleep in last night. We rant to them every single time we are in a bad mood and they have seen every version of ourselves (including the overly drunk, less than classy version). They knew the real you, and still loved you.
When you see an old friend, it's hard to ignore that you don't know too much about her anymore. Of course you know her major and have a general idea of what she’s doing, but that’s nothing compared to before. It’s safe to say before you knew too much about her, but it was alright because she knew too much about you. But now you both just know too many old embarrassing stories, and you have to pretend like you don’t want to know the new ones.
You probably know exactly how long it has been since you’ve been with your ex-boyfriend, because lets be real, everyday without that a**hole is a day in the right direction. But you don’t really realize how long it’s been since you’ve last seen your ex-best friend. Honesty, it doesn't seem nearly as long as it’s been, until you see that so much has changed in the time between. Your hair is a different color, your major has changed, and you don’t even live in the same city anymore. It’s so much easier to just feel like it hasn't been that long, rather than realizing it’s actually been an extremely long time.
Honestly, there’s probably been many nights you’ve wanted to text her about that horrible thing some guy did. Plenty of nights other friends have asked about her and you didn't really know what to say. There’s probably been countless times you wanted to apologize and pretend like none of it ever happened. However, you didn’t - but you should. Because let's be real, a break up with a guy is sad in the beginning, but losing a friend doesn't ever stop being sad - even if you didn't realize this until you were stuck face-to-face with the girl who used to know everything.
