Seeing as how Father's Day was this week, it seems appropriate to talk a little bit about fathers. I don't think it's possible to overstate how important fathers are. My dad has always been my hero. He taught me how to work hard and think for myself, and I feel so blessed to have him for my father. I think he's a great example of what dads should be.
In the LDS church, we believe mothers and fathers fulfill specific responsibilities together. The first presidency issued "The Family" -- a proclamation to the world a few years ago, which outlines these responsibilities. Fathers are meant to provide for their families, protect them and help teach them about the gospel and the world. It's important to know that this is meant to be done with the mother as an equal partner, and is not meant to restrict or belittle her role or opportunities in any way. I think when it says provide for their families, it means fathers should be dedicated to their work, whatever it may be. That way, they set an example of working hard and earning their own keep in the world. Working hard is the best way to stay independent and find success in life, and fathers should help set a good example of that.
Another role of fathers is protector. I think this is about more than just keeping the house safe from an intruder. I think it's about making sure kids feel safe at home, safe from nightmares, spiders, bullies or other pressures of the world. Fathers help kids feel safe asking questions, looking for advice, or even confessing to mistakes. Kids need that security, and fathers play a huge role in creating it.
Fathers are also teachers, and not just about religious subjects. They teach important life lessons, both big and small. My dad taught responsibility, hard work, patience and problem solving. He expects a lot from me and my siblings, which only encourages us to expect a lot of ourselves. He is amazing and I couldn't ask for a better dad.
Now, I know not everyone has this experience. Some people have fathers who have done terrible things or who walk away from fatherhood and don't find it important. I wish more men could understand how crucial it is for kids to have good fathers. True the mother's role is primary in nurturing children, but fathers are the rock, and security, and the example that teaches them how to live in the world. I can't imagine how different my life would be if I hadn't grown up with my dad. I don't know how else to say this, but kids need good dads, and I'm so grateful to have mine.
