We all have that person in our life that has a hold on our heart. For whatever reason, we would do anything for this person but the feeling is not mutual. “My love, he makes me feel like nobody else, nobody else. But, my love, he doesn’t love me…” Couldn’t have said it better myself. 22-year-old British pop star, Dua Lipa released her song, “New Rules” in 2017 and gives us all the advice we’ve been needing to hear.

1. “Don’t pick up the phone, you know he’s only calling cause he’s drunk and alone”

We all know that feeling we get when we see that certain name pop up on your phone in the late hours of the night. We want so badly to answer, to go to wherever they are and we think that this time will be different. Maybe this time they are ready to admit their feelings but, deep down we know the truth. Don’t answer them, better yet block them. You’re nobody’s last choice.

2. “Don’t let him in, you’ll have to kick him out again”

This can be both a figurative and literal rule. Don’t let that person back in your home, physically, when they come knocking and, more importantly, don’t let them back into your life or your heart. Once they’re out, keep them out. Letting them back in will only make it more difficult for you to let them go again.

3. “Don’t be his friend, you know you’re gonna wake up in his bed in the morning”

We are weak. This person knows that we are weak and they will manipulate us to get what they want without any care to how it affects us. Don’t try to be their friend and give them an easy way to manipulate you. Cut off all ties and make your life way easier in the long run.

There is only one way to get over someone and that is to distance yourself from them. We should all follow Dua Lipa’s, “New Rules” and count them, tell them to ourselves so that person won’t have a hold over us anymore. You got this. You are so much stronger than they are making you feel right now. Don’t let them make you feel that way anymore.