Being Dropped From Your "Dream" Sorority

Being Dropped From Your "Dream" Sorority

The "dream" sorority might not be the best one for you.
Caroline Ayn Mitchell
Caroline Ayn Mitchell Sep 2, 2016
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It's that time of year again where school begins and recruitment is in the air. Recruitment season has girls shedding so many emotions- them being members of the sorority already & those who are going through. As our own recruitment just ended, and Bid Day was yesterday, there was one major theme that I kept thinking about. Most of the time you see girls jumping for joy & running to the house of their dreams, but then you have those who cry or are not happy about the outcome. For those of you who did not get the "dream" house, this ones for you.

Being dropped by a house that you thought was meant to be your "home away from home" may be better than being in the one you thought was best for you. As you were talking to the many of different girls of the house you wanted, you thought you connected well with the girls, and maybe you did, but as a whole the house thought you might fit in best somewhere else. This is not a bad aspect, nor should you look down on yourself for it. The sororities know the personality of their sister and can mostly determine whether you are a next piece to the growing circle of their sisterhood. This is not a chance to dog the sorority that dropped you, but to give the other houses on the row a chance to be apart of their sisterhood. They are taking a chance on you and offering you a bid that could of been for another girl, but they chose you! And there is that possibility that you may fit in somewhere you thought you did not belong.

Just like anything else, it is all about what you put in as to what you will get out. One of my own sisters lives to the thought that the effort you put in will determine the outcome you receive- and I could not agree more. It might be a lower tear sorority, or it may be one that you are not a legacy of, but that sorority's sisterhood could be the one that you make the best memories with. Just like they took a chance on giving you a bid, you need to give them the chance that they could be the best friends you may ever gain.

So when you get that bid and it is not the house you wanted, still give the girls a chance who want to one day call you their sister. Do not take this as a rejection or that you are not good enough, but a blessing in disguise to what could be the best sisterhood you could ever be apart of.


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Caroline Ayn Mitchell
Caroline Ayn Mitchell Sep 2, 2016
At South Alabama

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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Taylor Grace Abrahams Apr 3, 2017
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