It's recruitment season. Sorority recruitment, that is. Girls at different colleges around the country are ending their summer and beginning their school year by finding their perfect sorority house. Although there are many girls that are positive they want to go through sorority recruitment, here is to the girls that aren't so sure.

I went through traditional sorority recruitment my freshman year of college. I remember thinking, is a sorority really for me? What is sorority recruitment? Is it just like the movies? I am a first generation college student, so I really had no one to go to when deciding if I should join a sorority. My entire life I had seen sororities in movies and thought it would be so fun to join one, but as I got older, I wondered, what if I didn't fit in? I decided, what's the worst that could happen? So, I went through with recruitment, but I quickly realized maybe it just wasn't for me.

I felt uncomfortable with the whole process of recruitment and I felt like maybe a sorority just wasn't for me. Now, before I continue, I want to say that I give my respect to girls in traditional sororities. Props to you if you found the sorority that fits you because I also did, but it just happened to be outside of traditional recruitment and traditional sororities. I am not in any way bashing the recruitment process, I am merely speaking to the girls like me--the girls who just aren't sure if traditional sorority recruitment is for them.

So, the day before I was supposed to get my bid, I made the decision to drop out of the recruitment process. I really was sad at this point because I did meet some great girls and really did visit some great houses, but I just didn't feel like I was being true to myself and, although I didn't realize it right away, that was okay.

If you decide to go through the recruitment process and realize you're not really feeling it, my advice would be this. Make sure you understand that it's okay that you don't like it. I was told many times by many girls in the sororities that they weren't sure if it was for them either when they were going through the recruitment process. Understand that if you drop, some girls may stop you and tell you how they wished you wouldn't have dropped and there may be times when you regret it, but also understand that you'll make your own memories and your college social life and academic life aren't ruined.

I was so scared to drop traditional sorority recruitment because I kept thinking, what if I don't make any friends? My roommate was also going through recruitment and I kept wondering, what if she makes all these new friends and I don't? I also weighed out other things like, what if this is the only way I can make job connections?

I eventually tried a nontraditional sorority process and joined a Latina-based sorority, but not until I went my entire freshman year sorority-less and really experienced college life.

I dropped out of recruitment and I found a home away from home outside of a traditional sorority. I realized that I was turning a small decision into a life or death situation. My advice to anyone questioning sorority recruitment is if there is a little part of you that wants to try it, then try it, because there is nothing worse than regret, but if you try sorority recruitment and don't like it, that is okay, because traditional sororities, and sororities in general, aren't always for everyone.