The Downside Of Being A Nomad

The Downside Of Being A Nomad

It's crazy to see your whole life in a few boxes.
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In the past six years, I’ve moved a total of six times, and I’m moving again in the next few months. I’ve mastered the art of packing and have never lost a single item throughout a relocation. I’m definitely an OCD packer even though I own only a suitcase full of clothes and a suitcase full of shoes. I am probably the best person you can have to come over and pack your things.

I pride myself for being a nomad. I have a love/ hate relationship with being a drifter. On one hand, I am in love with the freedom of being able to just grab my things and go anywhere without any hesitation. On the other hand, I am left with no place to call home and sometimes being constantly on the go can get a little lonely.

I’ve been pretty much on my own since I was 16. Looking back now, that was a pretty young age to practice independence. I sped through my teenage years and didn’t really have the opportunity to experience irrational behavior.

My first big move was coming to the United States. I decided to leave my native country along with my family, friends, my dog and everything I was familiar with to start a new life here. It was one of the toughest decisions I have ever made but also one of the best. After that first move I realized I don’t make deep ties with many people due to the fear of leaving them.

The toughest thing I had to overcome was the idea of having no place to call home. Everyone has a different definition for home and for me, home is where the people I love are. I’ve attached myself to those who have impacted me on my journey.

People don’t tell you the cons about living on your own, they talk about the benefits and adrenaline rushes because by the time you’re comfortable being by yourself all the cold nights and loner feelings tend to diffuse.

It’s hard to be strong when you feel like you don’t have support. I know that’s a lie because time and time again my friends and family have proven to me that they are right by my side every step of the way. It’s hard because no one is physically there for you. I doubted myself on many occasions whether I was making the right choice or doing the right thing. You feel lonely when no one is there giving you a hug, making you comfort food or even just knowing their close. Sometimes phone calls are just not enough.

Hopefully, I haven’t scared you completely. I do believe everyone should move at least once in their lives. Leaving your comfort zone is a challenge but you really grow from the experience. You get to explore your likes and dislikes, learn how to cook, develop hobbies, and figure how who you are.

Things are going to feel tough at some point and I’m not going to sugar coat it and say it was easy to overcome. It’s ok to wallow in your sorrows, because you know at the end of the day you’re going to be alright.

I wouldn’t be who I am today without the trials I’ve endured. I have grown into a person I am really proud of and I can be confident in the decisions I make. Being a nomad has taught me to face my fears head-on, it also taught me that standing alone isn’t as bad as expected.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

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When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.

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Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!

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