You see it everywhere. The media says: Her ass is too big. Her waist is too skinny. She's too tall. She got raped because she dressed like a slut. That girl's a tease. And there are a ton of people seeing the media saying this and sharing it with other people. Body shaming confident women.

confidence is okay.

I am one of those girls that had to go through a lot of shit to finally love her body. I had to lose 20 pounds too fast and then I gained 30 back. Then I lost it again in a more healthy way. Now I've gained some of it back. But all those times before I hated myself so much and didn't give my own mental health the time of day. It's taken years to be comfortable in my own skin and I'd be lying if I said I am 100% comfortable with it now.

I know I'm not the only girl like this, either. So many women (and tons of men, I haven't forgotten about you) are in all stages of their self-love journey.

Now, if you've ever body shamed someone (I shamefully admit that I have, so you can admit it too, we don't judge here), then think: You tell a girl that did legs in the gym every day for months to wear a pretty dress that it's too short or looks slutty; you put a fork in her entire journey. And that's just one scenario, there are hundreds!

We are our own biggest critic, and no one needs to hear anyone else's opinions unless they ask for it. So, work on loving yourself, quit with the judgmental bullshit and be happy that someone loves themselves for exactly who they are.

Cause we're all beautiful.