In recent years “wifey material” has become a popular way to judge a girl and whether a guy should choose to have a long term relationship with her. It has been part of the trending list on twitter and has been depicted by photos of a girl cooking or cleaning or serving her man, sometimes in her underwear, just because. Sometimes there are pictures of guys that circulate that have them playing with kids or cuddling a puppy, claiming that they are “husband material.” I’m just as guilty of Retweeting these tweets as the next person, but recently I got to thinking about them. All of these things are great and I’m sure a man won’t complain if his girlfriend takes the time to make him lunch or clean the bedroom, but this does not mean that they are automatically destined to have a ring on their finger.
For some reason our generation has been hung up on being "wifey" or "hubby" material, and I don’t completely understand the hype. Like I said, all of these actions or traits are great in a relationship, but none of them really speak to how the relationship will work. It takes two to tango, so if only one person is meeting these expectations things will go south pretty quickly, even if she can drive stick.
I’ve met many people who, on the outside, seem like they would make for a pretty awesome other half. They can cook, they are neat and tidy, and can probably create a pretty bangin’ sandwich in their underwear. These same people also were not as successful in relationships as you’d think, because they fail to do one very simple thing: love their other half.
Quit worrying if you’re “wifey material” or not, because you aren’t supposed to meet the expectations of the majority of people. You only have to mesh with that one person (and their mother) and you’ll be more successful than any of those hashtagged tweets could’ve predicted. A relationship will require more work than putting a casserole in the oven. There’s going to be times that are hard that can’t be fixed by dusting the coffee table. You’ll have to find a way to work on your relationship and spend time together, not just trying to adhere to all of these generalized notions of what a proper wife should do. If you find someone that completes you, it doesn’t matter who cleans and who cuddles with puppies. What matters is that you find a way to make it work.
Screw what society has to say, because there’s some girls out there who don’t want kids, can’t cook, or absolutely hate sports. These girls are going to be able to find love just as much as a girl who can cook a 4 course meal and have it done in time to watch the Steelers play. Don’t try to be the now-stereotyped hubby/wifey material, instead focus on being you. You’ll find someone more tailored to yourself and your needs than you will if you keep aiming to be someone you’re not.
If you're looking for someone fit to be a wife, you're looking for someone who is down for you and only you. Cooking and cleaning are great, but only when accompanied by a woman who is your biggest fan.
As for the guys, don't worry. We'll be expecting the same in return.
