Don't Let Words Define Who You Are

Don't Let Words Define Who You Are

Words are just words, they don't define who you are.

Being girls, it seems impossible to go through life without having something said about us; whether it's the truth or not. The words that are said can sting and hurt, especially coming from a best friend, co-worker or family member. What they don't realize is, the words they say can define us, if we let them.

Going through high school, it's common to hear your name brought up in the bathroom. You might hear that some girls are calling you "fat" or "annoying" and shortly afterward, you start to believe them. Even if you are five pounds overweight compared to how they look, they will call you "fat." They could be calling you annoying because you are just trying to be a good friend and keep up with them.

After high school, it gets a little easier. The more we mature the less is said, but not everyone matures at the same time. Once you hit college, you start to worry that girls are talking about you. You see them whisper to their neighbor in class and instantly assume that it's about you. They talk about how they don't understand why you decide to wear workout clothes everything and they think it's tacky. No one will every understand what goes on in your day.

The worst part about hearing things said about you, is when you are at work. You try so hard to get along with everyone and be nice, but no matter how you act someone is going to dislike something about you. You can't control what people say and how they act, but you can control how you react to the words being said.

It's easier said than done, but you can't let those words define who you are. If someone doesn't like your hairstyle, body jewelry or personality you can't help it. If you are happy with the way you look and the way you act, then that's all that matters.

You will find true friends who will love you for you who are and not judge you. They won't go behind your back and say "words" that aren't true or judgmental towards you. You'll realize in life that soon enough the words won't matter anymore. Others can say as much as they want about you, but as long as you hold your head high you can make it through.

Don't let words define who you are. Stand tall and be proud of who you are. Live your life to the fullest and treasure the friends you have. Don't sweat the small things in life, because they aren't worth it. Smell the fresh air and sing along with the birds, because each day is a new day, and words are just words. If you let them control your life then you will lose your true self and won't ever want to go back. Just push the words aside and live your life the way you want to.

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"Time to get up, time to start going, time to start a new day..." This is the chant my wonderful mom would sing as she woke all of us up in the morning to get us ready for school. No longer a kid however, I now get to wake up to the ever pleasant sound of my alarm beeping endlessly until I can pull myself out of bed to turn it off. Working out in the morning for me is a must - if I don't start my day in the gym, I feel all out of wack. But I'm not gonna lie... some mornings I just want to lay in bed and skip the workout. Here are some tips for getting out of bed and to the gym before your mind tricks you into sleeping an extra hour.

1. Lay out your clothes the night before

I always lay out my outfit for the next morning. Once I put my workout gear on, it helps me get in the zone and I feel much more ready to go workout. Plus, working out gives you the excuse to get some super cute workout clothes... and you can't wear them if you don't go to the gym (just sayin').

2. Plan out your workout the night before

I like to have a plan before I go and workout. This allows me to be in the right mindset - whether I am going on a long run, running sprints, lifting weights, or something else - I know what I am going to do. Additionally, this is especially helpful so you don't feel overwhelmed with all the options when you get to the gym. Starting the day with a plan makes you feel more organized and you are able to get a start to your day faster.

3. Go to bed early

Sleep is extremely important to your mental and physical health. You aren't going to be able to get up in the morning and have enough energy to work out if you didn't get a proper amount of sleep the night before. Getting good, restful sleep gives you the energy to wake up in the morning and have a good workout, giving you even more energy for the rest of the day.

4. Put your alarm across the room

I put my alarm away from my bed so I have to get up and turn it off. And once you are out of bed, it's a lot easier to stay out of bed.

5. Have your headphones and a playlist ready to go

I like to have a pump up playlist ready to go. When you get the right song going, it's hard to not want to dance and sing - and then you're really in the mood to get going.

6. Make your bed

You heard me. This might sound silly, but once you make your bed, you're not going to want to get back in it. This not only keeps you out of bed and takes away the temptation of getting back under the covers, but it's also super refreshing to come home after a good workout to a made bed!

7. Lay your goals out

Look at your goals before you walk out of your house. Remind yourself why you are doing this, and why it is worth it. This is the best motivator for you as you head out, and will really get you out the door.

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My Semicolon Tattoo Does Not Make Me Basic, It Represents My Story

The semicolon tattoo tells a different story for each person.


When I was 17 years old, I called The Suicide Prevention Hotline. I dialed 1-800-273-8255 with sweat on my palms and shakiness in my voice. I patiently waited for the operator to answer.

Once someone did answer, I lost all knowledge of the English language. She repeated, "hello, are you there?" Reality came back to me as I said, "yes I am, I'm sorry."

We talked for about 45 minutes. I was asked "why do you think you don't belong here?" about 20 different times. I explained that I hated how I was living my life, how I was being treated, how I was not happy with who I am, and how I just couldn't handle the pain anymore.

I was diagnosed with epilepsy when I was 14 years old, which has an awful side effect of depression. Ever since I was 14 years old, I started to overthink everything. I started to irrationalize about events that didn't even make sense. I put a guard up to protect myself.

I never wanted to leave my house. I never wanted to hang out with anyone. I knew that I would be judged. All I wanted was to be alone. During those three years of being in a dark cave, I tried to end my own life more than ten times. I barely have any recollection of attempting. All I have are the emotional scars.

As I finished my conversation with the Suicide Prevention Hotline, the operator ended with "since you are under the age of 18, I am legally responsible to contact your legal guardians." I started shaking. So you're telling me that you have to tell my parents? I only called you because I trusted you with the biggest secret of my life and you want to tell the two people in the world that I want to keep that secret from?

"You have to tell my parents?" I asked as she proceeded to ask for my mom's number. I gave her my mom's number and I told her that I was tired and needed to go to sleep.

The next morning, my mom was crying while on the phone. She was off of the phone a few minutes after. The look in her eyes as she asked me why I wanted to leave so badly cut deeper than any wound I have ever had. I could see her heart breaking slowly but surely.

"You are my baby, why do you want to leave me?" That is all she had to say. I hugged her and knew that she needed me here with her. That is the day I decided that I needed to stop being selfish. I am wanted AND needed here.

In 2018, a few months before my 21st birthday party, I went to get a semicolon tattoo on my wrist. It is such a simple tattoo, but it tells years worth of stories.

Getting a semicolon tattoo is not "jumping on the bandwagon." Before you judge someone on their tattoo choice, think about what that tattoo could mean to them. My heart soars when I see someone with the same tattoo as me because I know that they could've ended their life at any time, but they decided to keep going. How could you not be beaming with joy thinking about that? Life is sacred.

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