Don't Let Words Define Who You Are

Don't Let Words Define Who You Are

Words are just words, they don't define who you are.

Being girls, it seems impossible to go through life without having something said about us; whether it's the truth or not. The words that are said can sting and hurt, especially coming from a best friend, co-worker or family member. What they don't realize is, the words they say can define us, if we let them.

Going through high school, it's common to hear your name brought up in the bathroom. You might hear that some girls are calling you "fat" or "annoying" and shortly afterward, you start to believe them. Even if you are five pounds overweight compared to how they look, they will call you "fat." They could be calling you annoying because you are just trying to be a good friend and keep up with them.

After high school, it gets a little easier. The more we mature the less is said, but not everyone matures at the same time. Once you hit college, you start to worry that girls are talking about you. You see them whisper to their neighbor in class and instantly assume that it's about you. They talk about how they don't understand why you decide to wear workout clothes everything and they think it's tacky. No one will every understand what goes on in your day.

The worst part about hearing things said about you, is when you are at work. You try so hard to get along with everyone and be nice, but no matter how you act someone is going to dislike something about you. You can't control what people say and how they act, but you can control how you react to the words being said.

It's easier said than done, but you can't let those words define who you are. If someone doesn't like your hairstyle, body jewelry or personality you can't help it. If you are happy with the way you look and the way you act, then that's all that matters.

You will find true friends who will love you for you who are and not judge you. They won't go behind your back and say "words" that aren't true or judgmental towards you. You'll realize in life that soon enough the words won't matter anymore. Others can say as much as they want about you, but as long as you hold your head high you can make it through.

Don't let words define who you are. Stand tall and be proud of who you are. Live your life to the fullest and treasure the friends you have. Don't sweat the small things in life, because they aren't worth it. Smell the fresh air and sing along with the birds, because each day is a new day, and words are just words. If you let them control your life then you will lose your true self and won't ever want to go back. Just push the words aside and live your life the way you want to.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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What it means to me


Due to a series of ongoing events throughout my semester, I've reconsidered what it means for someone to truly be ugly. Though it is often used in terms of appearance, I do not see it as such-- now more than ever. Ugliness runs deeper than appearance-- it runs within one's soul and festers into other areas of one's life, particularly in their treatment of others.

I view ugliness as someone's conscious capacity and implementation of malice. Taking time and energy out of your day to hurt someone else, that's what I view as ugly. Some offenses are more minor than others, however, it is still a conscious effort to hurt or affect someone else negatively-- and that's the source of the problem. I truly wonder what causes that sort of behavior in someone, as I, along with most people, simply do not invest time or energy into hating or plotting against others. It seems like a full-time job.

I can theorize all sorts of reasons as to why someone would act this way: hate, jealousy, vengeance, etc. Yet, all of these reasons don't hit the root reason. It almost seems that some people are just innately ugly in their soul. This alludes to the timeless debate of whether one's personality is due to nature or nurture. Again, although our surroundings and environment do have a large effect in our behavior, that alibi only goes so far when multiple people are placed in the same environment, in the same situation, and only some are willing to cross moral boundaries in order to hurt the others. Just because an environment applies pressure to people, does not mean everyone is going to act out in malice, and it certainly does not give everyone an excuse to do so. Some people are simply conniving and, well, ugly inside.

If you have ever encountered people like this, I know from personal experience that it is such a drag. You have an enemy, essentially, whether you chose to or not, however based on their hatred towards you, they are now considered an enemy, a hater, and any other associated term. Know that they will do anything in their power to bring you down, even if it requires bending the truth and creating elaborate schemes, but you have to keep on doing you. Let them obsess over ways to bring you down. At the end of the day, their time and energy is being invested into bringing you down, while yours is being used to build yourself up. They will fall by default. So, keep your head high, act in grace, and make your money. They can sip on their Haterade and watch from below.

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