Don't Just Fail To Succeed, Fail On Your Own Terms

Don't Just Fail To Succeed, Fail On Your Own Terms

Hold on to your vision and see it through.


Sisyphus pushes a boulder up a mountain only to have it roll back down with him. He could step aside and let the boulder topple below without him, but that would be defeatist. The purpose to succeed comes from the challenge, the unexpected obstacles, and interference that stands in your path.

The texture and grooves of the boulder are familiar to your touch and steep as your footing. Out of the corner of your eye, you sneak a peek at the peak poking through. Holding on to your goal, you take another inch forward. Progress is progress, even if it means facing an error after a trial. Doing and doing your best is the goal before you reach your goal.

Failure is not in the doing either. You only fail if you stop doing what is necessary. Working with the people who know what you love to do is sometimes out of your reach, but you grasp at any advice they have. "Working under someone" is not the right phrase nor the right attitude to have. Working at what you want to succeed in is part collaboration and part cooperation.

Collaborate on a common point of connection. Develop a relationship over a similar interest you share or a person you both know from each other's lines of work. Cooperate with creative and intellectual compromise. Know what you want and work at what you are worth. The right people at the right time will notice you.

I was a Junior Achievement Volunteer my sophomore year of college. I would be a kindergarten teacher once a week for six weeks straight at Timber Lakes Elementary School. I never blamed the kids for not understanding me. If I was in kindergarten, I wouldn't understand what I was saying when I introduced myself either. It didn't help that I had to get the whole attention of a class with varied personalities but it did teach me the same curiosity and individuality a preschooler has that I brought with me the next weeks after.

I found out I wasn't a good traditional teacher, the head of the classroom filled with expectant heads and judging eyes. The experience, a disastrous series of second-guessing in my mind, was no doubt priceless. Had I not been a volunteer teacher, I could not have had or found my next opportunity, a job as a professional tutor with My Tutor Lab.

Teaching was something I could do well, but it depended on the setting and circumstances. In a group of people where the risk of the lesson being lost on some and gained by others, teaching in the classroom begins to feel impersonal and impossible to gauge. As a tutor, I am able to see how a student learns in real time, one-on-one, and can adapt to how that student learns best.

My niche was teaching but it needed to be a niche far more specific to the kind of teacher I wanted to be. I couldn't have landed a job as a tutor if I didn't fail as a teacher and even though I failed, that failure was disguised as a success. Play the role you are given until you can play the role you want.

Success is a weight you wouldn't mind carrying, but at the expense of breaking your back, lift after lift, you still come back knowing the weight is something only you can carry. You don't just have a boulder, you get to have a boulder. Suddenly, the boulder is much rounder than you remember and then it happens.

Your feet are flat and the boulder stands ready to be moved again.

Failure is succeeding on your own terms. If you fail, at least you failed the way you want, doing what you want.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Here's What Happens When All Of Your Friends Have Babies

All of my friends back home are married with children. No, really, they are.


Over the past few months, three of my friends have shared their pregnancy news with me, and I couldn't be more thrilled. Baby news always stirs up a range of emotions for me. I'm excited and crying happy tears (no joke, I started to cry when my best friend told me and showed me her ultrasound).

Being "Auntie Meg" brings me such great joy. You see, I absolutely adore children, especially my friend's kiddos. They can easily brighten up my day with their giggles, love you, and their goodbye kisses & waves. I absolutely love getting to be "Auntie Meg"; it could potentially be my favorite role to fill.

I don't think I've ever loved human beings more than I love these babies. These are kiddos I would do almost anything for; they truly have my whole heart and I couldn't be more thankful for each and every one of them. I've loved getting to watch my friends grow into incredible parents.

I love getting to be one of the biggest cheerleaders for my friends and their kids. Listen, I can't wait for the day when they are older and are asking to come over more and spend time doing fun things with auntie Meg. I can't wait to watch them grow and I can't wait to be able to come alongside them and be a shoulder to cry on and one of the loudest voices cheering them on (Next to mom and dad, of course).

While there is just so much good about your friends growing up and having children of their own, if you are not careful, it can also fuel a person's self-doubt.

It can bring up questions like, "am I good enough?", "what is wrong with me?", "why am I not where they are at?" I would be lying if I said that I have never thought or felt these things, but here's the thing: you are good enough, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and their path is not your path; you will get there when you get there.

Those things are so important to remember in times when you begin to doubt yourself or your worth.

Believe me, you are good enough, there is nothing wrong with you, and that is not the path you need to be on at the moment. This is a great time for you to focus on you and the things you want out of life. What are your goals? What is on your bucket list? Just because you don't have the things your friends have, doesn't make your life any less fulfilled than theirs is. Your life is just as wonderful and fulfilling as theirs is, just in different ways.

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