We all want someone that makes us feel special. You know, that kind of feeling that only one person can give us? It's nice to have someone to hold your hand, go on spontaneous dates, and be silly with. Some of us dream about a love like that our whole lives. However, you can't get that type of relationship with just anyone. It takes someone pretty special to make you feel all fuzzy inside.
Society makes us think that we have to have someone in our lives to complete us, but in reality we don't. You shouldn't have to feel like you need someone in order to feel whole again. All we see on television is Hollywood's "fairy-tale" version of what love is and honestly...I'm not quite sure if I would want a love like that. I love chick-flicks as much as the next girl (or guy), but I doubt I'll ever have someone that will love me like Noah loved Allie in "The Notebook." It all just seems so cliche, and unoriginal. I want a love that I've never seen on the big screen, or read in a Nicholas Sparks book.
I thought I was in love once with the first guy I ever dated. Granted, I was also 17, so the fact that some random guy I met at prom was actually interested in me was enough of a fairy tale for me at the time. Spoiler alert: we didn't last but three months after he went away to college. We didn't really know what love was, but I'm confident in saying that we taught each other what true love is. After we broke up I learned what is and isn't "normal" to happen in a relationship, and I've dogged huge bullets with guys ever since.
I have some news for you all. You see, love doesn't come just because you're dating someone. No, love comes after the high and lows, the laughter and tears, and even the joy and heartbreak. Love is something that comes with time. You have to be patient, and allow your relationship to grow for there to be true feelings. Rushing into things is never a good idea in anything. If you rush, you're probably going to fall. And while falling in love can be amazing, you also have to make sure you have someone or somewhere to land.
Don't get me wrong, being single is great. I personally think that it's actually smart when you're in your early 20s to be single. You really get to discover yourself when you don't have anyone else to answer to. This past year, I decided to stop looking for someone to "date" and instead started focusing on myself. One of my friends from high school told me once that love comes when you least expect it. It worked for me once, so I'm hopeful it will happen again.
