Being the girl who was always single seemed so lonely. This is probably the reason I jumped at the guy who I currently don't even speak to anymore. All of my friends always have boyfriends, so I was used to being by myself but admiring what they had from a distance.
If I could give anybody (including myself about three years ago), it would be to remain single until somebody proves to you that your life would be better with them in it. It would be to let someone sweep you off your feet instead of trying to jam yourself into their life. I have had about one real relationship in my entire twenty-two years of life. Guys would express their interest, but being the picky person I am doesn't help either. I know what kind of person I want to share my life with, and I don't plan on picking just anyone and "hoping for the best."
Everyone my age (early twenties) seems to be in this rush to settle down and get married. While I think this is definitely a goal of mine in the far future, I can't picture that happening any time soon. Not just because I haven't found the right guy yet, but because there are so many things left for me to experience. I have plans to complete a master's degree at some point, I have hobbies that a relationship would take time away from, and I also have places I want to travel. I would urge anyone in search of a relationship to take these things into consideration. What if you missed out on a job opportunity that could be life changing because of a relationship that ended up not working out? I know myself, and I would be filled with resentment.
Many of my friends have never been single for more than a week. Although I'm not sure how they meet all these people, I could never see myself being in those kinds of relationships. Is anyone really satisfied with the person they're dating that week? Maybe they're just filling a void. Maybe not. But, I know that if I'm going to put myself in a relationship, I'm giving it all or nothing. I've gotten through a very abusive relationship with flying colors, and I also met a guy that I thought would change my life. Dating is hard, but if a door doesn't open, it's not your door.
So many people say how much they hate being single, but I've seen from personal experience that the grass definitely isn't greener on the other side, it's actually sort of brown. Relationships are hard. They take a lot of time and obviously commitment. While this may be something to strive for, it's definitely nothing to just blindly jump right into. My advice is to truly find yourself before committing to someone. You may think you know yourself inside and out, but you'll go through so many things in life that will change you. Dragging someone along for that roller coaster of a ride isn't fair to you or to them. They always say, "Let love find you," and I've definitely made a home in the Lost and Found section.
