One of the most frustrating things is when you see your friend shove Taco Bell, Chik-Fil-A, and then a shake down her throat and still fit into those size 0 pants that night, sans muffin top.

Playing sports my whole life had left me with an athletic body shape, which I honestly loved. However, going to college, eating crappy food at random hours, and not working out constantly really changed that for me. I started noticing a difference in my body that made me unhappy.

No longer could I just rely on my soccer practices or tennis matches to get the fun workout in; I needed to stay in shape. I now had to fit working out into my busy schedule along with managing the first semester of college, yikes.

I was constantly on edge putting myself through random diets barely having time to workout out alongside my classes and sorority, in turn, having me feel very unhealthy. Going on social media and having the explore page pop up with stunning, in shape fitness models wasn't a self-esteem booster either. It seemed almost impossible to get the Kardashian body that is splashed throughout the media no matter how hard you work.

That is, until one day I had a talk with a close friend and I realized that I was focusing on something I could not control. I was created and could not change the body I was given. Her perspective was insightful, to say the least. She was the opposite of me, unable to gain weight, and she absolutely hated it and always being told she was too skinny her whole life.

Instead of beating ourselves up we should focus on the positives of ourselves and if you really want to change do it in healthy ways. As cliche as it sounds, it really is how you feel about yourself and treating your body the best you can.

Each person has their own body shape and has to take different actions to feel good and secure in themselves For me, I had to eat healthy because being so short I am prone to gain weight and it doesn't have a lot of places to go. Along with eating healthy to stay in shape, I joined a CrossFit gym which keeps me active. For my super skinny friend, she has to eat more than the rest of us and not work out as intensely.

Finding what works for you is honestly the best thing there is to do because again it all about your OWN body.

Just because I cannot look like Kim Kardashian or fitness model Tammy Hebrow if I'm staying healthy, I am being happy. I think this is something we as women should realize. Each person gains weight in different places and has different shapes and each and everyone is absolutely beautiful.