Depression Is Scorned In Our Indian Community, But It's Time For A Change

Depression Is Scorned In Our Indian Community, But It's Time For A Change

Indian parents sometimes refuse to acknowledge mental health disorders and that should not be the case.

A common misconception about Indians is that we're practical people. And as far as I am concerned, that is fairly accurate. We only believe in what we can see and prove. For example, two hydrogen atoms and one oxygen atom make up water; therefore, water is proven to exist. But what scientific process can we use to legitimize a mental health disorder?

As Indians, we see every side to a problem, and we know honestly is a rare quality in today's society. So if a student claims to have depression, our minds wonder why. Is he trying to skip some math test? Is she giving herself an excuse for why her grades are mediocre? It's all lies and exaggeration when it comes to discussing depression.

We pride ourselves for being tough and for persevering when the times get difficult. Succumbing to anxiety or despondency is perceived as weakness. Frankly, it's embarrassing to admit that we are not up to the task, especially when most Indian students are compared to one another and ranked academically. We all want to be number one.

Consequently, discussions about mental health disorders are discouraged. Taking medication for just "being sad" seems silly. Adolescents are lucky if their parents notice their deteriorating mental health at all. Even if they do notice, they tell their kids that "it's just a phase."

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It's not. It is a serious problem that left unattended could negatively impact a child's life. We Indians are unwise if we think this problem will go away if we give it time. In fact, a major factor that contributes to mental health disorders is a lack of communication between parent and child. Indian parents assume that their children will blindly obey them. What they fail to recognize are independent thoughts and actions that their kids wish to express freely, but fear to do so over opposing social stigma.

In the fight to secure their children's future, they forget to fight for their children's happiness.

I'm not saying we should hate on Indian parents. You'll never find more dedicated, hardworking parents to love you unconditionally. But we must remind them how we really feel, and how we are coping against various stressors in our lives. Only if they understand us on a deep personal level can they truly help us.

Tell them that some problems you cannot solve on your own. Remind them that mental health is as important as physical health; if a broken arm warrants a doctor visit, then severe anxiety and depression should too. Take that extra step to fight for recognition so that troubled Indian children are one step closer to help.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won’t see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won’t laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won’t go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They’ll miss you. They’ll cry.

You won’t fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won’t get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won’t be there to wipe away your mother’s tears when she finds out that you’re gone.

You won’t be able to hug the ones that love you while they’re waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won’t be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won’t find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won’t celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won’t turn another year older.

You will never see the places you’ve always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You’ll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it’s not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don’t let today be the end.

You don’t have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It’s not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I’m sure you’re no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won’t do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you’ll be fine.” Because when they aren’t, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

For help, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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To The Person Struggling, It WILL Get Better, Even If You Have To Fake It 'Til You Make It

You don't have to have your life 100% together.


If you are one of those people that are on the struggle bus, it's OK and you aren't alone.

Some days the bus is full and sometimes that bus is mostly empty. But the thing is, you'll get off the bus. And yeah one day you'll get back on it, but what would life be without some kind of struggle?

In all honesty, everyone is struggling and no one really has their life figured out.

People can tell you their life plans and their goals for a month, a year or their life, but the thing is that can always change. Life cannot be planned out completely nor should it be!

I've had multiple adults (the ones that pay rent and have jobs that they love) say that it's all about faking it 'til you make it. So if you are struggling and unsure how to do things, fake it! Of course, if you need help, ask for it! It would be much better to ask how to do something than stress over it for days. But there are just sometimes you might need to pretend like you know what you are doing.

Honestly, confidence is key.

One thing that might help is being organized (if you aren't already). That has helped me. Just being able to know what was where and when my next assignment is due. Lists are your best friend when you are trying to keep your head up in a sea of assignments, projects, exams... you name it. Have as many as you want on the walls, in your phones, on your laptop or anywhere that you can look at it.

Because nothing is worse than feeling like you are forgetting something.

And just like with many things, drink lots of water. It helps. And breathe. It may seem silly, but even ten seconds of focusing on your breathing and closing your eyes helps. Remind yourself that you got this. Because you do.

Above all, relax.

Don't overwork yourself and take breaks doing something that you enjoy. It's better to take breaks than working for hours on end.

So this New Year, remember that it's okay to feel like you're struggling. Just try and enjoy life and breathe. Because one day, you'll get off the struggle bus and to where you need to be.

And you'll get there. It takes just takes some time.

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