Defining A Loving And Serious Relationship

Defining A Loving And Serious Relationship

"it's not always rainbows and butterflies, it's compromise that moves us along."

I had given up on boys completely, and then I met him. I was in my sophomore year of high school at lunch, when a new smiling face showed up at my usual table. He was handsome and polite, but quiet, which intrigued me. We became close friends for a while, and then he asked me to be his girlfriend. I was so ecstatic as it seemed like every boy prior only wanted one thing, and it wasn't a serious relationship. Unfortunately I was not allowed to start dating until I was sixteen in June, and it was only April. He showed me the first sign that he was a true gentlemen... he waited until June and officially asked me out on my sixteenth birthday.

We have been together ever since, almost four years ever I'm just as in love as the first time I met him. Sure, things aren't always perfect, but that's what love is... conquering every hardship that comes in the way, while embracing every moment you have together, bad or good.

What does being in a loving and serious relationship really mean?

It means waiting for that message or call on your phone before falling asleep that lets you know that they're home safe, because you care about their well being.

It means running to their aid in times of distress, and waiting by their side until things get better, and stay better.

It means understanding that they are human and they make stupid mistakes, and even though forgiving them isn't the easiest it's something that has to be done in order to strengthen your relationship.

It means being their alarm clock for work when their phone dies in the middle of the night.

It means helping to pay the bill with your own money when their budget is tight.

It means stopping by Starbucks on the way home and dropping it off to them at work, because you know they're having a rough night.

It means bandaging them up after they get hurt, and running to the store to get them anything that might ease their pain.

It means pushing them to do their very best in everything they do, congratulating them when they succeed, and picking them up when they fall.

It means finding fun in the smallest of the things you do together, because time spent together is valuable.

Being in a loving and serious relationship means that you're truly happy with each other, and that you've found the one.

I know I have.

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A Letter To My Best Friend's Future Husband

You're marrying me, too.

Dear BFF's future hubby,

First of all, congratulations. You've caught one of the sweetest, most beautiful fish in the sea. But I don't need to tell you this. You already know she's a dime plus ninety-nine. Wifing her up is definitely the best decision you've ever made. Our girl (yes, she's mine too) is one of a kind. She's strong, smart and unbelievably caring. Her standards are pretty darn high, so you must be quite the man. If I had to guess, I'd say you're very tall and very handsome. You probably also dress extremely well and drive a nice car. Most importantly, though, I'm sure you're an awesome person who treats my best friend like the princess she is. Now that you two have tied the knot, there are a few things we should get straight.

You married me too.

Sorry to break it to you, but her and I are a package deal. Lucky for you, I rock so this is no biggie. You can expect daily phone calls and multiple visits throughout the week. Some of these visits may result in sleepovers, and some of these sleepovers may be in your bed. Deal with it. You'll learn to love me (almost) as much as you love her.

I'll be your go-to girl.

If you ever need advice or anything of the sort, I got you. I know this girl better than 99% of people so I'll be your main source of info until you reach my level of expertise. It's likely that I played a big part in planning out your engagement so you probably already know how good I am at this kind of stuff. If she's ever upset, call me up and I'll I'll tell you how screwed up and give and how to fix it. If you want to know how to surprise her, I'm your gal. Of course, all of this will be our little secret. You can take full credit for any of the ideas I give you.

If you hurt her, I'll cut your you-know-what off.

I know you won't, but this is something I'm kind of required to say.

I'm so glad she met you.

This is the most important thing I want you to know. I can only imagine how incredibly happy you make my best friend. She doesn't fall in love with just anybody, so I know you're special. You're the one. I can finally stop pretending to be her lesbian girlfriend when creepy guys hit on her at the bar. So thank you. Thank for making her laugh until she cries, for constantly reminding her of her effortless beauty, and for never saying "no" to the pair of shoes she wants. Thank you for proving me right all of those times I promised her there was a guy out there worth marrying.

I can't wait to meet you!


Your future best friend-in-law

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8 Things That Happen When Your Boyfriend Doubles As Your Best Friend

It's a 2-for-1 special!


You've heard how people say that having your boyfriend is the best thing plenty of times before and honestly, it's true.

There is nothing better than having your boyfriend be your best friend also, especially if he was before you started dating. There are so many pros that come with your best friend also being your boyfriend, such as the following:

1. You feel comfortable around him no matter what you look like

Yes, that means even when all the makeup comes off you don't really care what he thinks because chances are if he really is your best friend, then he already has seen you without makeup on tons of times before.

This means that you can wear some sweatpants and a large t-shirt around him with your hair up in a bun and you still feel comfortable around him.

For me, my boyfriend has seen me sick and crying enough times and he still loves me no matter what. So, I know that even if I am not looking my best, it's okay because, at the end of the day, he's seen me way worse and loves me still.

2. You tell him everything

Well, you tell your best friend just about everything, don't you? Yes, you do! So it only makes sense that you tell your boyfriend, who is also your best friend, everything as well.

With someone your dating who may not necessarily be your best friend, you may not talk about everything with them, such as girl drama or asking them which item of clothing they like more. But, if your boyfriend is your best friend, then you should feel comfortable talking to him about everything, even including the girly stuff.

This also should go both ways- meaning, he also probably tells you everything too. Yes, even if it is about his football team winning some game. And since you are his best friend, you will actually care.

3. You can be weird around him

Since he is your best friend you can be your self around him! All of us have a little weird side and if your boyfriend is your best friend, then he has already seen it.

He probably thinks it is cute though and shares his weird side with you too because that's what best friends do! You can both just be your selves in front of each other.

4. The gross factor is gone

Chances are that if he really is your best friend, then he's seen your gross side already. This means your not afraid to go to burp and if you have to fart, because yes girls are human too, then you just do it.

If he's your best friend he won't judge you. In fact, he will probably just laugh and joke with you.

5. You don’t need to worry about meeting his family

You probably have already met his family so there was no added dating pressure of having to meet his parents. Instead, you already know them and it was more of an adjustment, rather than meeting them blindly.

I first meet my boyfriend's parents way before we were dating and when we were just friends. They've seen me whenever I've been sick and gross so when we finally started dating, I knew that it would be a lot easier on me since I had already met them and they've seen me at my worst.

6. When you are with him, you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else

When you are with him, you are getting a two in one special! You get to hang out with your best friend and see your boyfriend at the same time! It's the best of both worlds.

So, if you have your two favorite things combined into one, why would you want to be anywhere else than with him?

7. He already knows you really well

If he really is your best friend then chances are, he already knows your likes and dislikes. He also probably already knows everything about you, including the deep stuff.

He knows you like the back of his hand and you know him like the back of yours.

8. You loved him before you started dating

You love your best friend, right? Well, then you probably loved him as a friend way before you started dating him. You now just love him more and in a romantic way.

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