A Declaration Of Independence From The Patriarchy

A Declaration Of Independence From The Patriarchy

"Feminism is the radical notion that women are human beings."

I am angry.

I am angry because I cannot walk down the side of the street or go for a run by myself without being yelled at by men in confederate-flag-covered pickup trucks. I am angry because the men in my classes speak so much and so fervently that women can hardly get a comment in edgewise. I am angry because men feel threatened by women when we win an argument. I am angry because a man thinks that it is okay to grab a woman in the fraternity houses, even when she tells him to stop.

I am angry because the only way to get a man to stop hitting on you is to say, “I have a boyfriend,” because they respect another male-bodied person more than they respect your rejection or your lack of interest.

I can go on for pages and pages, disclosing the single instances in which women are systemically degraded by men, but I won't. I could give a speech about the times that I, or a friend of mine, has felt personally victimized and intimidated by a man while walking down the sidewalk, in her school, or in her own home, but I won't. I will speak my mind and call attention to the deeply patriarchal and misogynistic culture in which we live and I will fight for every right that I and all other women have. The small instances that we experience only reflect a broader misogynistic culture that we are all a part of and now we reveal it.

It is systemic.

Rebecca West said, “I, myself, have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat.” When a man disagrees with a man, they argue it out. When a woman disagrees with a man, the argument escalates until the man feels as though he has won, whatever it takes to do so. It is embarrassing for men to take second to a woman. None of this is fair to men either. Why are skinny men seen as weak and "wrong" if they need help lifting a heavy box? Why are men who are not into sports and guns seen as "girly?" Feminism isn’t for women, it's for everyone.

It is ingrained in our language.

Think about your conversations with your friends. What do you call someone who is being a jerk, taking things for his own, or treating women poorly? You call them a "dick." Now, what do you call someone who is weak, or wimpy, or afraid to talk to a woman because he likes her? You get the idea. We are blind to the patriarchy because it is literally ingrained in the most basic cultural feature that we all have in common: our language.

“Many women, I think, resist feminism because it is an agony to be fully conscious of the brutal misogyny which permeates culture, society, and all personal relationships.” (Andrea Dworking)

It is only getting worse.

The leading candidate for the GOP, Donald Trump, only further illustrates my point. Why is it that his main voting constituency is male, those with less formal education, and lower-income? It's because it is these men who do not fit into the patriarchal portrayal of a "man."

In 2013, Donald Trump tweeted: “26,000 unreported sexual assaults in the military- only 238 convictions. What did these geniuses expect when they put men and women together?” Why shouldn't we expect men to not assault women? If women weren't afraid to report the assaults, then maybe something would change. Trump is and will only fortify the walls that are built around women to keep them out of power.

This isn’t about Trump. It is about the fact that Trump’s popularity is only a reflection of a broader misogynistic (not to mention racist, fascist, and the list goes on) culture that we are all reinforcing every that time we do not stand up against it.

Call me a crazy feminist. The only way that there will be any real change is if we act against the structure that society has put into place and acting out against the structure is crazy. Call me a "feminazi." If you are so intimidated by the power of women that you must equate our demand for equal rights and equal power to Hitler’s invasion of Poland, then call us whatever you want to make yourself feel better.

“…the older I get, the more I see how women are described as having gone mad, when what they’ve actually become is knowledgeable and powerful and f***ing furious.” (Sophie Heawood)

I do not know when or if the system will ever change. I do not know if men will care when women begin to call them out for all of the small misogynistic elements of their conversation, rules, and actions. I do not know if women will even be able to ever see the oppression under which they live.

I do know one thing, the patriarchy will not end until our acceptance of it does. It will not be over until our acceptance of it is over.

It's over.

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The Dangers Of Ideology And The Importance Of Free Speech & Debate

Universities are currently policing thought, indoctrinating students into a radical egalitarian ideology, and crushing dissenting opinion.

It’s truly amazing to consider how quickly the culture on college campuses has changed over the last several years. Once staunch defenders of speech and academic freedom, modern universities are quickly turning into ideological echo chambers, indoctrinating students into a radical left-wing egalitarian worldview, while crushing dissenting opinion.

The disturbingly Orwellian trend to quell free expression on campuses can best be illustrated by an event that unfolded last year at James Madison University’s freshman orientation, when “student leaders” distributed a list of 35 things that incoming students should avoid saying, including phrases such as “you have a pretty face,” “love the sinner, hate the sin,” “we’re all part of the human race,” “I treat all people the same,” “people just need to pick themselves up by their bootstraps,” among other expressions.

You might find yourself laughing this off as nonsense, an isolated set of events perpetuated by a select group of fringe radicals. Unfortunately, I can assure you that this is not an isolated incident. In addition to the slew of protests that erupted at universities last year in response to conservative speakers being invited to campus, these kinds of events are indicative of a larger, and more pernicious attempt by the radical left to control the linguistic territory.

At universities across America, the campus left now demands that people accept certain preconditions for discussion. Not the kind of reasonable preconditions such as “treat people with respect,” or “don’t resort to personal attacks.” Rather, It is demanded that you accept a neo-Marxian worldview, rooted in the notion that the world is nothing more than a power struggle between two groups of people: those who oppress and those who are oppressed. They demand that people accept notions like white-male privilege as axiomatic – not to be debated – and force people to acknowledge how they've been privileged by the current socio-economic structure.

Refusing to accept these presuppositions not only bars someone from participating in the discussion. To challenge an idea, such as white privilege, is to reject the fact that racism and bigotry exist in our society. To challenge the notion that being white necessarily means you must be more privileged than a person of color is akin to blasphemy. To push against the idea that certain classes of people in America are ‘victims of systemic oppression’ is to deny the humanity and individual experiences of people of color, women, and other minority groups.

The campus left emphatically espouse the notion that “the personal is political.” Thus they believe, unequivocally, that the primary responsibility of the University should be to ensure students from “diverse cultural backgrounds” feel safe – and by safe they mean “not having their identities challenged;” and by identities they are referring to their belief systems – the lens by which they perceive the word.

From the perspective of a radical leftist, to participate in debate is not seen as merely engaging in criticism of some abstract idea. To challenge an idea is to challenge someone’s identity, and to challenge someone’s identity is to debate their humanity.

And that is one of the axiomatic rules of the campus Left – you cannot debate someone’s humanity.

Indeed, with more than a fifth of college undergrads now believing its okay to use physical force to silence a speaker who makes “offensive or hurtful statement,” the future of the First Amendment itself is currently uncertain.

What exactly is so dangerous about this movement?

For starters, the freedom of speech has wrongly been construed as just another value that we in the West hold in high regard. But it is more than a Right that we share as citizens of this nation. It is, ultimately, the mechanism by which keep our psyches and societies functioning.

See, most people just aren’t that good at thinking. I don't mean this as a sleight against anyone, but we’re all insufficient and we have limited awareness of most things because we just can’t know everything. We rely on communication with one another to facilitate the process of learning about things outside our realm of knowledge. Often we have to, first, stumble around like the blithering idiots we are, espousing our biased beliefs in a public forum, and subjecting our ideas to criticism before we can properly orient our thoughts.

When the open exchange of ideas is allowed, you get the opportunity for multiple people to put forward their biased oversimplifications and engage in debate that raises the resolution of the particular question and answer at hand. Ideas are hit with hammers, combed for contradictions, inadequacies and even falsehoods. On an individual level, this kind of scrutiny sharpens the schema you use to navigate the world because other people can tell you things you can’t know by yourself.

Maybe it’s an opinion espoused, or a behavior that manifests itself, or a misconception you hold- in any event, subjecting your beliefs to criticism is, in the short term sometimes painful because we often learn things about the world and ourselves that are uncomfortable; but, in the long term, it is the only way method we have for moving closer towards something that more closely resembles truth – and if not anything true, at least something less wrong. As a result, the lens by which you look at the world becomes clearer.

Further, it is also through a collective process of dialectic that we identify problems in our societies, formulate solutions, and come to some sort of consensus.

Thus the right to say what you believe should not just considered as "just another value." It's a conical value, without which all the other values we hold dear, that people have fought so hard, in such an unlikely manner, to preserve and produce all disappear.

Without it, there can be no progress. Without it, individuals abdicate their responsibility to engage in the sacred process of discovery and renewal. Without it, we can’t think. Without it, there can be no truth. Without it, there can be nothing but nihilistic psychopathology. The end result is a populist that is not only afraid to say what they think, but that doesn't even know what they think because they haven’t been allowed to stumble around in the dark to find some tiny fragment of light.

Therefore, when we consider placing restrictions on the freedom of speech we must do so with the most extreme caution. By setting ridiculous preconditions for discussion, the campus left not only makes the process by which we solve the problems with our society more difficult, but also, if taken to its extreme, it can lead to totalitarianism.

In the wake of dozens of campus protests last year, universities are now in a position where they have to choose between two incompatible values: truth or social justice. The former will lead us to a greater understanding, while the latter can only divide.

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Being An English Speaker Is A Privileged Status

Multi-lingual is the way to go

English is not the official language of the United States of America. But even if it was, a country apparently founded on the idea of valuing every citizen as a free individual could do a much better job welcoming people who do not speak English.

While it is natural that one language became the most common, and that this has simplified many processes, this same simplification is not afforded to those who do not speak the language.

Language barriers can reduce one’s job opportunities, meaning that even if one has degrees and plenty of experience, many jobs are simply not available. Many employers are unfortunately unaccepting of those who do not speak English fluently, and some even discriminate against those who do not natively speak English.

Education becomes extremely complex for non-English-speakers. On the student side, while many schools offer English as a Second Language programs, which is wonderful, it should be acknowledged that these students face more work and less support than students who are native English speakers. To add to this, if parents do not speak English, communication from the school or with teachers becomes harder to access.

One of the greatest privileges of English speakers lies in healthcare. They can be sure that they will find a doctor who speaks their language and can clearly explain their medical situation in that language. The same goes for psychologists, social workers, and others in the health professions.

This becomes especially complicated for those who speak languages that are not commonly studied.

A friend of mine who teaches was mentioning recently that while there are many students and families in her district who speak Arabic, there are so few people working in psychology, social work, or other support services who speak the language that for the district to access them is not only difficult but expensive.

This too often means that schools fail to offer students and parents speaking these less-commonly studied languages sufficient aid.

So what is the answer? To adopt English as an official language would be so wrong in our country full of diverse and wonderful languages, backgrounds, and cultures. Instead of attempting to make English more and more widespread, we should focus our efforts on ensuring that people in this country who do not speak English can receive all of the same support as those who do speak English.

Some of this lies in ensuring that systems and institutions offer resources in several languages and that employers will not discriminate against those who are not native English speakers.

Much of the solution, however, is on us, especially if we are students entering a people-oriented profession. In fact, in all professions, becoming multi-lingual does not merely open doors for us but creates a society where more people have access to the services they need.

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