When you "date" someone is your outlook to not be alone anymore...or are you dating to marry? Be committed..no one likes to be lead on!
When you go and ask a random girl, what do you imagine your future spouse or boyfriend to look like? Common answers would include, buff, hot, attractive, skinny, tall, fluffy, certain hair, certain eye color…etc. These answers are a girl's thought of a “perfect man.”
Honey, I am proud to tell you that there is no such thing as a “perfect man” Only God is perfect.
Individuals who don't base their relationships on God’s word and guidance will often fall into traps and the very wrong relationships.
I feel as if in today's relationships that individuals rush into them so they will have someone to call “mine” or they need that person to hang out with for certain reasons. This is a very sad reality among our coming up and current generations. Being a believer in God and knowing where my true Love comes from; it is a very sad realization when individuals feel the need to be in a relationship to feel the Love they are not getting!
If you are spending time in God’s word and praying for guidance, I urge you to check out a couple verses!
1 Samuel 16:7
“For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart” This verse is very comforting for the fact that if your significant other is aware of how big and loving your heart is, your external self should not be a hindrance. Looks are a factor but it should not be your main focus. Let's be real we all gain weight and get wrinkles. But one thing that will never change is our Heart!
1 Peter 3:3-4
“Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”
I want him to feel that dressing up is not a must, I'm my opinion I think it is very attractive for him to wear sweats, and just be comfortable, not try and prove himself or try to impress from the outside! Personally, I can see right through the fake, and that is a huge turn-off!
What do I imagine my future significant other as:
I want him to love God:
- Not just say he “loves” God, but truly have a Heart that is all for and about God’s will in his life. I want him to LOVE GOD more than me.
I want him to have a servant's heart:
- Servant heart in such a way that we would be able to stop what we were doing and go help and serve where serving is needed.
I want our relationship for the right reasons:
- I want to be able to dig into God’s word and grow together as one in Christ.
I want to be close to his family and be able to spend time even if he is not there, it is very important that I connect with the family! Not is it important that I connect with his family I also want him to connect with my family, and be comfortable with the craziness that might happen!
I don't wanna go out on fancy dates I just want to go on walks, watch movies and do fun things that don't cost any money.
I want him and I to be entirely comfortable being ourselves at ALL times.
He has to LOVE HUGS. Hugs are the way to my heart, it is the very simple things that mean the most!
He HAS to LOVE children.
If people were to ever look at our relationship I don't even want them to have the thought of, do they truly love each other? I want to just have the love the can be seen without even words be said, it all be how we look at each other in Awe!
Sometimes it is the little stuff that is remembered most, for example, this quote.
“I’m the girl who would prefer one rose instead of a dozen,
I'm the girl who would rather stay in on a Friday night then go to a party
I'm the girl who wouldn't make you wait on foot
I'm the girl who will do anything to see YOU HAPPY
I'm the girl who would enjoy a movie night rather that a fancy restaurant,
I'm the girl who would rather stay up all night telling secrets than going to drink ,
I'm the girl who won't make you hold my bag, instead, I want to hold your warm hand,
I'm the girl who will love you more than you can possibly dream of,
I'm the girl who would give the world to see you smile.”
Even though I could go without the rose altogether! :)
