Dear "Dad:" A Letter To My Estranged Father

Dear "Dad:" A Letter To My Estranged Father

The day I was taken out of your house is the day I started regaining my strength.
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Dear Dad,

I have contemplated numerous times about all the things I would say to you if I were ever able to sit down with you and just speak. However, right now, all I would love to say to you is thank you.

I want to thank you for telling me that I have no common sense, that I am stupid, and that I will never be anything more than someone’s baby mother. I want to thank you for telling me that I can’t, that I will never, and that I am not good enough. Most people’s motivational quotes are verses from the Bible, while my motivational quotes are the words you would say to me. I had heard those words so many times that I believed them myself. The day I was taken out of your house is the day I started regaining my strength.

The first Father’s Day after we stopped communicating, I had a soft heart. I was about to leave for my first semester at school. I texted you “Happy Father’s Day” to which you responded, “You must have the wrong number.” You disclaimed me as your daughter. That is what prompted me to prove you wrong in everything you ever told me. Without you shutting me out, I would not have the drive in me that I do today.

Thank you, “dad,” for being there with me when I study in the library until 4am, when you telling me “you have no common sense” would play in my head when I just couldn’t get that Sapling problem correct. Thank you for helping me realize that writing is something that I love, being able to share my experiences with others is something I love to do. Thank you for putting so much negativity in my life that I am able to find positivity in the little things. Every time I get frustrated or want to give up, I remember how you hurt me and I persevere.

I have experienced so many amazing things since you stopped being in my life, and that is only because I was able to move on. I cannot wait to see where life will take me, and if I am to one day become successful, I want you to know that you are the reason why. Without you doubting me and bringing my self-esteem to the lowest points, I would never have as much devotion and passion as I do to prove you wrong.

Sincerely,

The Daughter You Wish Wasn’t Yours

Cover Image Credit: Just Jenna Rose

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My mom is pretty darn special. And I'd be kidding myself to say that I tell her enough how much I appreciate her. There aren't enough breaths in the day to thank her for all that she has done for me, and all that she will do for me. So this is for my momma, these are just a few of the reasons why I think she's pretty great.

1. I can talk to her about anything.

I know for a fact that no matter the issue and no matter the story, my mom will listen to the entire thing with nothing but compassion in her heart. I don't ever need to wonder if she will judge me because I know for a fact that she never will.

2. She gives the best hugs.

I don't care if I saw her yesterday or if I've been away for three months; my mom will always hug me like she hasn't seen me in years, and there isn't a better feeling in the world.

3. I have never met a more selfless person.

She has such a heart for others and I am constantly blown away by her devotion and passion for serving those around her. If I (or anyone else) needs anything, my mom is the first one to jump up, drop everything, and run to help. If I have half as much generosity as my mom someday, I know that I would be making a huge difference.

4. I am inspired by her.

Always.

5. She cares so much for me.

I know that no matter how old I grow to be, and how mature I may become, my mom will always be there for me. She will always be waiting with open arms to either congratulate me or console me. I have never felt more loved by any other human than I do by my mom.

6. She loves me unconditionally.

I will never ever need to worry that she will stop loving me. No matter the circumstances, no matter the phase of life that I'm in, my mom will always be there for me, loving me every step of the way.

7. She is my number one cheerleader.

I don't think I will every meet another person more dedicated to my success and ready to celebrate my accomplishments than my mom. She is hands-down my biggest supporter and will always be standing at the finish line of whatever race I may be running. I could be crawling across that finish line and she'd still be cheering for me the whole way.

8. I can always count on her to point me in the right direction.

My mom will pray for me. She'll encourage me. She will lead by example and through the counseling that she is always ready to provide. I know that I can always count on her to push me in the direction of my dreams.

9. She has the best laugh.

I could pick my mom's laugh out of a crowd of hundreds. Her ability to laugh at herself (and at her own cheesy jokes) are part of what makes her so amazing. But the sound of my mom's laugh has the capability to make anyone's day, including mine.

10. I never stop learning from her.

See points 1-9.


Mom, you are such an amazing woman, and there is simply no way that I could put it into words. So I'll simply say thank you. Thank you for all that you do for me, day-in and day out. Thank you for loving me, and showing me what it means to live like Jesus and everything else that you do. I hope that one day my daughter might love me as much as I love you.

Love,

Me

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20 Mantras My Mom Passed Down To Me Without Even Realizing It

My mom taught me so many things without realizing it and helped me to become the young lady I am today and I cannot thank her enough.

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My mom taught me so many more things than just the 20 things on this list, but whether she realized it or not these 20 things helped shape me and helped me to become the young lady I am today. The things I used to think were ridiculous or pointless when I was little now all make sense and I realize the impact these things have not just on the people around me but on myself too.

My mom is the reason I am the young lady I am today and I cannot thank her enough for raising me to see the beauty in this world and in myself.

Always make your bed before you leave

I used to think this was so pointless because by later that night I was just going to unmake the bed. But you never know what you are going to face in a day and after a long and stressful day, there is nothing better than coming home and plopping down on a nice clean bed.

You can never have too many clothes, shoes, or handbags 

Life is full of different occasions and each one needs its own unique outfit. When you look good you feel good, dress to impress.

Never pay full price for anything

Sales are absolutely everything, looking good should not be expensive.

Always be honest

This could be because my mom and I both cannot lie without laughing but either way, the truth is always better even when it seems like it won't. Trust me it is. Your word is everything and if all you do is lie no one will ever believe you.

A good hug can change your life

Even when you don't think you want a hug or don't need one, you do. A hug can change everything.

Always write a thank you note

I used to hate this when I was younger but now it is like a lost art form but also it leaves an impact and makes you stand out to a lot of people.

Be nice just because you can 

You have the choice to be nice or mean every day and there's enough evil and mean in the world so be nice, it could change someone's life.

Lend a hand whenever you can

Again, being nice and helping others will leave a greater impact then you being mean.

Even on your worst day being positive can change it 

Your day maybe going really bad but if you focus on the good things that can happen you will improve your day.

Life isn't fair 

Being a good person or doing all the right things doesn't always mean you life will return the favor, you just can't let all the bad affect you because there are so many good things in the world.

Be on time, better yet be early

If you know my mom you know she's late to everything and after countless years of embarrassment I now am always early.

Prayer is powerful 

It may seem pointless but it really does matter.

Have faith in God's plan 

God does know best and what He has planned for you is better than anything you could come up with.

Don't be scared, life if magical 

There are so many wonderful things in this life that there is nothing to be scared of because overcoming your fears is truly magical.

Go after your dreams and don't stop until you achieve them 

Life is too short to not chase after a life you love, so do it. But don't stop at just reaching your dream, conquer it.

Don't ever ever ever give up

My mom used to say you have to finish whatever you start no matter how hard it gets because you never know what you might learn along the way.

Better things are coming

At times it may feel like nothing is going your way and nothing is going right in your life but do not worry, better things are coming and everything will be alright and work for your good.

Never underestimate hard work

Life is not always easy and not everything will be handed to you so you have to go out and get it yourself and don't be fooled, hard work will get you there.

You are stronger then what you are going through

Everything you go through is meant to help you grow. Don't let the negative and adverse times in life define you because at the end of the day you will make it and you will come out a better person.

Sometimes it is worth risking everything 

There will be times in life where you just have to say screw it and put everything you have out on the line and risk it all and it is okay to do so. No matter what the outcome you will have learned something.

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