We all know that cheating is bad. It is hurtful, dishonest and selfish. Yet, why do so many people do it?
It appears to me that some “bros” are under the strange assumption that cheating is in some way cool. These boys walk around with a chip on their shoulder because they don’t care about other people’s feelings. “What even are feelings?,” they will ask. We should know they are way too cool for those. Bottom line, these boys get ultimate bragging rights because they got to kill two birds with one stone: hooking up with a girl while hurting one that loved them.
As a result, innocent girls are left wondering what they did. They think they were the problem. They stay up all night replaying everything, questioning everything. Don’t worry girls, I have been there. We all have. But I am here to tell you that you are not to blame. And to the cheater, I am here to tell you what you need to hear.
Mr. Cheater, I do not know how you got the idea in your head that it was acceptable or praiseworthy to go around breaking innocent hearts. You might think you got away. Maybe you think you escaped the mess you made, and let others clean it up for you. But you didn’t. You might think you won because you can brag to your friends. What you did is not cool, acceptable or funny. And news flash — to you and to every guy who might think so — nobody applauds you for it.
The issue is, Sir Cheats-A-Lot, is that you think you are a “macho man” for being unfaithful. In reality, you are the exact opposite. You are a coward. Your actions are immoral, disgraceful and prove how horrible you are. Maybe what you did was exciting and new at first, but you have broken your morals and an innocent heart.
The thing that girls need to realize is that boys cheat because they are the insecure ones. Their actions are based on a desire to be wanted. Especially if the relationship is long term, it is tough for some boys to get validation from only one person. This is a problem you cannot fix. Some people have emotional issues they can only solve themselves. They think cheating will fill some void they feel and validate their feelings, but really it only leaves a bigger internal problem.
Look, they don’t teach you how to put back together a broken heart in school. But maybe that’s because we have the inherent capability to do it ourselves. At the end of the day, all you have is yourself. Be happy with that. Be proud of that. You can give yourself more joy than you ever thought you were capable of. This boy who broke your heart. He is not your first love. Your first love should be self-love.
So, if I could give a piece of advice to the cheater, if he is still reading, it’s this — own up to what you did. Take the time to recognize how wrong you are. Take as much time as you need to fully assess the situation. Figure out your own problems, and fix them, before you start creating problems for other people. And then, give that great girl the proper apology she deserves. Although, she is probably already over you.
