DBAA Charge

Some tips about how to stop being an ass to people around you. If nothing from this list is about you – double-check this, please. If it’s not about you even after double-checking, I’m really glad that you exist in this world. Please, call me. I need to know you are a real person.

1. Do not ignore people.

Even if you decided not to talk to them anymore, even if you had a huge quarrel, even if they vote for Trump – it doesn’t mean that they just don’t exist in the same world as you do anymore, okay? If you meet them, especially if it’s someone from the same college as you and you live on the same campus, just… Come on! It’s not as hard as you think just to smile and to say hi. Be polite. Just for a moment, forget about all the stuff happened between you.

2. Do not think that you are the center of the world.

I mean… It’s pretty obvious, no? Sometimes you need to be selfish, it’s true. But not all the time. Just stop for a moment and think about others as you think about yourself.

Attention: if you always think only about others – stop doing this. You deserve attention from yourself too.

3. Do not betray people.

Again, so obvious. I don’t even want to comment on this.

4. Do not boast your achievement if you didn’t work hard or if you reached the same goal easily.

Hard to explain, but if you know that someone worked really hard to achieve something and you got it easily because of your special skills or because of fortune… Don’t even try to tell the person next to you that it was easy and you got it so perfectly. They worked so hard! Tell them that they are good! Because it is important for them.

5. Do not interfere with someone’s life.

If someone didn’t ask for your opinion, don’t try to impose your opinion. You’re not perfect, you can’t know everything to always give advice.

6. Do not use people.

It’s similar to the “do not think that you’re the center of the world” point, but at the same time completely different. Even if sometimes you need to use someone for your own stuff, do not let them understand that you’re using them! If you want to be a secret ass – be a secret ass, but do not break someone’s heart, be a creative secret ass. Or do not be an ass at all.

7. Just don’t be an ass, okay?

Treat others the way you want to be treated, okay? You, obviously, don’t want anyone to be an ass to you, right?