The dating world of today is so unappealing. The type of dating where holding hands with someone in the supermarket is more of a commitment than sleeping with someone on a Friday night. I'm not interested in texting all day and night about meaningless things and I don't want to stalk your social media sites just as much as I don't want you stalking mine.
To be honest, I'm not sure we can even call it "dating" in this generation. It's rare to find someone who wants to go out to dinner or someone who doesn't shoot the "here" text instead of knocking on the door. And don't get me wrong, nice guys do finish last. I know you're out there holding doors and shaking hands with parents but for the majority of the population people nowadays would like to mess around, but don't want the opposite party messing around on them.
There's this idea floating around where if you lack attachment, they will be more interested in you. The less you care, the more they'll want. How ridiculous. We are living in a generation that tells us that we should be emotionally unavailable that you shouldn't try too hard for anyone that you want. Don't be crazy, honesty is the best policy.
Let's be clear, by "dating," I don't mean a committed relationship. I mean two people going for a meal and getting to know another's interests. To determine if you are in fact, interested.
Dating is a crucial part of forming relationships, getting to know someone, and choosing where they fit into your life. But instead, we go through this awkward stage of texting for a few weeks and it's now referred to as "talking." What does "we're talking" mean? You're talking about what? The weather? Your passions? We're setting ourselves up for these insecurities we have. We're beginning to believe that if someone doesn't want to spend every possible opportunity with us that they must not be interested, or worse, they're "talking" to someone else. For some people, this sick cycle is fine, but for the rest of us - it isn't.
I cannot speak for everyone, but for myself, I want it all or I want nothing.
I understand that letting your guard down can be terrifying, that opening up and allowing someone to know you is scary, but how scary is it really? Personally, I believe we're doing ourselves an injustice with meaningless hookups, with the lack of connections, and truthfully abusive tendencies.
We long so deeply to commit to someone, but we're not willing to take the risk. Or worse, we're insulted when someone doesn't fully commit to us when truthfully, we never committed to them fully either.
