The dating scene of our generation seems to have made some rules that differ from the traditional style of our elders. The passion that was once used to spark up something meaningful is no longer used nor valued in the mind of this generation. No longer do we go steady, wear the man's pin, or even go on a real date. Our dates have turned into chill hang outs, and Netflix and chill or parties with other people to get drunk and act crazy. Even those have been redefined into innuendos for some one-night stand action at the least.

We decide that instead of being with one person at a time, we date more and just pick and choose who we want while stringing along all the others. I've noticed for a while that the more we grow up, the less settling down is taken seriously. We millennials aren't looking for that lasting relationship like our parents and grandparents before us at the age we are now. As a girl that binge watches old 90's shows for fun, all the differences have seemed to be less shocking. No one asks formally to go out for a dinner or movie as cliche as it is.

Instead of seeing someone attractive across the room at a school, party or even at the gas station and they approach for a conversation, we now have Tinder and Meet Me and countless other dating sites used to get dates and hookups. We turned from seeing someone face to face with a first impression on the line to basing attractiveness and a vague non-related bio that describes nothing of the person. We have disconnected from people itself and that's the generation we live in now.

Guys/Girls will meet you, say all the right complimenting things but come time to hang out it's expected to come out to one of 3 scenarios:

1. A one night stand that can be regretful and have the whole drawn out situation of them not texting the next day.

2. One date turns into more and then all of a sudden the guy/girl will decide that they either don't want a relationship or all they want is friends with benefits and no label attached.

3. The lucky ones. These are the lucky couples that find each other and make a relationship work no matter how long. They are the people that choose to want someone in their lives that show potential in being a lasting partner and not just a temporary fix.

With the way things are going in my generation, I feel bad. We are missing out on what could be because the social standards are changing. The few that like being with someone are left with sorting through countless potentials only to get lost in the dust of those who just aren't searching for the same things anymore. We get ghosted and lost and confused. We question ourselves and how we project out to the world. We question our own morals and wonder are they even considered valuable anymore.

So to the ones who go out and put themselves out there only to be disappointed, shut down, or even ghosted, I feel you. To the ones searching for passion or even someone to make memories with, I get it. No matter how much the standards or protocol changes when finding someone to have an effect in your life, don't give up that hope completely. Some old souls are still wandering around somewhere looking for the same thing.