In today's day in age, dating can be confusing. Are you guys just "talking"? Are you guys just "hanging out"? Are you dating or not? Or are you just the side-chick or side-guy? It shouldn't be surprising then to hear that many of college kids are not in relationships.
Here is a short guide to dating in a hookup society.
1. Actually asking the person on a date.
None of this texting crap. Be clear and upfront about it in person. I can almost guarantee that the other person will admire you for it, regardless of their answer.
2. A date isn't "hanging out" or Netflix and chill.
While a date doesn't strictly mean dinner and a movie, it shouldn't be Netflix and chill either. Find something you both enjoy, but doesn't break the bank. We are still broke college students after all.
3. Don't feel obligated to be in relationship.
Just because it seems all your friends are seemingly happy in relationships doesn't mean you are behind. It means that you just want to be with yourself; you're in a relationship with yourself. Start looking when you want to, not when you feel like you have too.
4. Have standards or a deal-breaker list.
Now, before I start getting hate, hear me out. Organize a list where there are the things that you absolutely will not budge on and create another list for exceptions or times when you are willing to compromise on.
5. When someone says no, don't think they are playing hard to get.
If they say no, move on. Don't keep dwelling. You deserve someone who wants to go on a date with you.
6. Don't relay on just Tinder, Match.com, eHarmony.com for meeting people.
Go out and meet people. Talk to your friends and family and ask if they know anyone single. Your friends and family know you and there's a good chance they know of someone who could be good for you.
7. Revive the idea of chivalry and romance.
I'm not saying either person has to go all out. Just something small like opening doors, picking them up from their house, flowers, hand holding, etc.
8. Take turns talking.
Don't make small talk; make actual conversation.
9. Don't be the side-guy/chick.
You deserve way much more than to be a booty call; you deserve more someone who wants you and *only* you.
10. Reserve those three words until you *know*.
Going with along with #3, don't feel obligated to say it. You should say it when you know it.
11. Treat your date with respect/us your manners.
This one shouldn't be here, but yet here it is.
12. Just be yourself.
So if you're awkward, don't hide it. Everyone has their quirks. More likely than not, it eases the awkward tension and it feels more comfortable.
13. If they seem perfect, they aren't.
Nobody's perfect. Making compromises is key to any relationship.
14. It's healthy to spend time away from your S/O.
Sometimes you just want to get away from your SO. It doesn't mean you don't like them. You just want some time to yourself. It doesn't make you selfish, just human.
15. Don't run away from love. Run towards it head first...
...but don't forget to bring your brain with you.
