Dating is something we hate to do. There is countless apps on the market, websites that use fancy math equations and many others. Being a man in this time of age is rough to find a lady worth my while. Either there are fake people online, people who are not who they are etc. Being Catfished is very real and we probably all have been someway somehow. Bots are very common too. What have we come to?
I look back at when I was in high school we had something that everyone else did not. We all were together for the whole day, you can talk to someone face to face as well. There were interactions going on. Yes, college is the same way too. But you have commuters, Greek life, sports, people who work and much more. I literally went on maybe two dates in my time at a big university. It was off tinder and ironically it was a girl in my class. We have lost touch with basic interaction face to face. I really think both genders are very afraid to walk up and met someone. Plus there is a huge amount of pressure on us men to make the first move. My first girlfriend made the "first move" to a degree by engaging me until I built up some courage and asked her out. Totally worth it. The point is that everything was face to face but we kept in touch with modern technology. That is how it should be. And for long-term relationships, it's a beauty. You can now place video calls, have virtual dates like you are in person. But this connection has a big downfall. Being too close and on top of each other creates a very controlling relationship. It is more important to do that now than ever.
What we really need is to go back to the days of walking up to someone and engaging them, not thinking if they are a creep of something. Worse thing that can happen to us is to be rejected when trying. We should stop swiping right and left, relationships should not be this superficial at all. They should be getting to know each other, wanting to find out who the other person is, what makes them laugh. What is wrong with that?
Our generation is slacking, but I will admit dating is hard. Having the courage to go up to a complete stranger and talk to them is crazy, but our parents have done it or have been set up etc. Let's do better. Do you really want to tell your kids that you guys meet because you swiped right? Tinder and other apps are a beautiful thing, but we need to reality check our use of them. And us.
If I can try to talk to a complete stranger that means you could too. Go out there and win that person over. worse thing that can happen is a getting a no.
