Dating a collegiate athlete is not the easiest thing in the world, but it's not impossible. Once you learn to understand what comes along with this lifestyle, you'll be able to manage. I definitely wasn't prepared for this, but I wouldn't have it any other way. If you are looking to date an athlete in college, there are a few things you need to know before you jump in:
1. You'll never understand how busy they are.
Between practices, working out, games, traveling, going to class, studying, and their social life, you really won't be able to keep up. And you won't be able to keep up because they will be too busy to tell you what they are even doing.
2. You can't get mad when they do tell you how busy they are.
Just like I said before, sometimes they will be too busy to even tell you how busy they are. When they do let you know that they can't talk or see you, you just have to appreciate the fact they took the time out of their busy day to let you know. The worst part is that you're never busy.
3. Their schedule is never consistent.
Good luck trying to plan anything. It is possible that practice won't be at the same time every day. It is also very possible that things will change last minute.
4. Make sure you understand (or at least try to understand) the sport they are playing.
If you didn't like sports before, too bad. And if you did, bonus points for you.
5. Watch them in action.
Try to make it there in person if you can. If you can't, always ask how it went because you should care (this will affect their mood for the rest of the day/night). And sometimes, they live stream the event so watch it online!
6. Be prepared for the post-loss.
Even if you aren't an athlete, everyone knows that losing or failing at something absolutely sucks. Be aware and give them some support.
7. Their teammates will know so much about you before you even meet them.
Teammates are so close with each other. When people spend every day together, they talk. And when they talk, they get to know each other on a more personal level. You'll never know how much the team actually knows, good or bad.
8. Time is precious.
When you actually get to spend time with your significant other, it probably won't be for long. Take advantage of it.
9. Sleep is no joke.
Early mornings and long days are all athletes know. They will sleep whenever they can, even when they get to see you. They will spend time napping any chance they get.
10. The sport will always be the first priority.
Whether you want to hear it or not, you need to realize that anything related to their sport will be put first. They aren't just dating you. They are in a relationship with their sport as well.
DO NOT HAVE THIS MINDSET!
11. All the hecticness is worth it.
Don't worry, it's not all bad. Athletes are the most passionate, motivated, dedicated, focused, and goal-oriented people. You should definitely acknowledge that.
This type of relationship isn't the norm, but it's definitely a great one. Don't panic. You'll figure out that there are way more pros than cons. You'll learn how to be patient, supportive, and independent along the way. And finally getting to see them is the best.
Until then, good luck.
