Have you ever tried to explain your relationship status with someone to your parents? Maybe you're a “thing", or you've gone on one date and he hasn't even called (or texted for that matter), or you just confessed your feelings, and both of you are awkwardly waiting to decide if and who will make the first move.
Your parents probably sat there with a puzzled look on their face after you sort of explained the situation.
Disclaimer: no matter how old your parents are, I promise you they didn't court each other like in the olden days. They were not accompanied by someone on a horse and carriage without being allowed to even hold hands, let alone kiss.
They did however use different terminology for some of the same dating scenarios we have today.
The Term Dating
Dating can mean any of the following:
1. Going on dates but not officially boyfriend and girlfriend
2. Officially a couple
3. Available in the dating scene - “I'm dating, putting myself out there. Just haven't found a keeper yet."
If your parents are like mine, they probably just think that dating means you're going on dates with one or more people. Being a couple no longer qualifies as dating.
A “Thing”
Frankly, a “thing” is youth’s way of saying I want a relationship but am terrified of commitment, so I’m going to avoid any label possible. Your parents should be confused!
It’s possible that a “thing” was probably parents’ version of dating before you became a couple.
What it Means to Be Single
Some adults believe you're single until you're married. Some have even said, “Anyone is fair game until there's a ring on their finger!"
So, how about we go back to just saying “I'm seeing someone" or “We're exclusive"?
Terminology of dating is important but also confusing! I advocate for more straightforward terminology, but more importantly, a more straightforward relationship.
You are friends with people that don’t take you on dates.
Strangers or friends hoping for more take you on dates.
You’re in a relationship when you're seeing one person exclusively.
Don't let yourself be in the bumpy waters of no labels! It's just as bad as the friend zone. Once you're in, you'll never get out.
