I love a good schedule. Nothing warms my heart quite like the thrill of a solid routine. I welcome the excitement of an event being penciled into my planner, and to say I am goal-oriented would be an understatement. I am the definition of type A, and it is something I have wholeheartedly accepted throughout my 21 years of existence. I have also come to accept that the majority of my friends do not share that same yearning for routine, but I have learned to love and appreciate their spontaneity (regardless of the occasional anxiety that comes with "just winging it").

When you are the type A friend in your friend group, you learn to adapt and accept the lifestyle of leisure, but there are certainly some struggles that arise when you "just play it by ear". *Insert cringe here*

1. Making dinner plans. Or lunch plans. Or plans for literally anything.

"What time do you guys want to go?" "Where should we go?" "Who is going to drive?" These are all questions you want answered immediately, but you are trying not to ask for fear of sounding crazy, over-scheduled or controlling. (Because you're totally not, ok?) Being the type A friend means sometimes having to let go of the reigns and just letting the chips fall where they may. Even if it means developing a stress-induced rash. Totally kidding about the rash. That was one time.

2. Trying to low-key make a plan in the group text without making it seem like a plan.

"Maybe we should eat a meal together potentially around 6? I mean, I don't know, only if you guys don't have anything going on later. Or not. It's whatever. Just let me know."

Hopefully that was casual and nonchalant enough. When you're the type A friend, you try to downplay everything and hope that someone else affirms your quasi-plan. I think it worked, right?

3. Riding with your friends to a scheduled event and fearing your arrival will be less than punctual.

When the meeting is at 4 p.m., the clock strikes 3:55 p.m. and your friend still has not picked you up, you may or may not start sweating. If so, do not fret -- you are not alone. I have been there. My advice for you in this situation is to take a deep breath, and realize that you WILL be okay. Embrace your new life as this chill person, who is totally okay with arriving five minutes late -- and then maybe put on some extra deodorant just in case.

4. Working with friends on a group project.

School work tends to be where your type A personality rears its ugly head the most severely. You are obsessed with your due dates, quality of work and overall efficiency. So what happens when you combine schoolwork with your friends? Absolute chaos. You try your absolute hardest not to be a control freak, but if someone suggests putting off the project until the night before it's due, your skin begins to crawl. Ultimately, you end up doing most of the project yourself, and your friends are insanely grateful for you. Its really a win-win for everyone, but the anxiety it causes you until it's finally over is less than enjoyable.

5. Constantly trying to downplay the severity of your type A-ness.

You left your planner at home for the day? Totally not a big deal. Your meeting got moved an hour earlier? Completely fine. You have gotten used to downplaying these anxiety-causing situations, because you know that's how "normal people" would react. Even if you're having a small panic attack on the inside, the world will never know. Truly an Oscar-worthy performance.

As a type A girl with mostly type B friends, I face these situations almost daily. However, my handling of these situations has greatly improved throughout the last few years (I hardly ever get stress hives anymore). I am so thankful for my "go with the flow" friends for encouraging my spontaneity and reminding me that life does not always operate on a schedule. My tendencies will always be of the rigid, type A nature, but I could not be more grateful for those friends that keep me balanced... and also accept me for my inevitably scheduled lifestyle.