Control and power are funny things. People either love you or hate you when you have these issues. They either admire you or despise you. They either praise you or criticize you. Have they ever thought where these issues could stem from? Did they ever take a minute to think that there is a real reason, a real cause behind a person having power and control issues? Do they also ever think when they point these issues out to you from time and time again that they aren't the only ones who have done it and that it can hurt each time it's pointed out?
As someone with these issues, I can tell you it can be a real problem and a real pain in the butt. I first started realizing I had these problems my freshmen year of high school but could have suffered from it even longer. There can be multiple reasons as to why someone has these problems, some more personal then the next, but it doesn't make a difference. Control and power issues are real and something that people do try to work on.
The reason as to why I have these issues are simple. Due to my childhood, I never really had any control in what happened to me or my family. Even after those dark days, I still had seldom control of what my life actually looked like.
Since I felt powerless for a huge portion of my life, I now try to have power and control on whatever I can get my hands on. It can be helpful because I know I can rely on myself to get important work done and know it's to the best because I'm the one that did it; but, it can be hurtful as well. It makes me not trust people to do work that I could do, to take on more work then I can handle, to be the leader in activities, and to always do everything in a group project or activity only because I want the control to make every decision and not have to rely on others.
There are some that do realize that they have these problems and I am one of them. Even though it's hard, it is possible to work on it. It takes a lot of time, effort and patients but if someone is willing to they can work on it. The issues will never be gone completely in my opinion, but they won't be as bad as they ever will. However, people who have these issues run into a slight problem with friends or even people who they are not friends with.
There are always people who will point out anyone's faults time and time again. At first it is annoying but you get over it but when it keeps happening and people who are your friends, or thought were your friends, point it out a few times it starts to hurt. You hear what they say and understand that they want the best for you but can they not see that when it gets pointed out something changes? You can become silent and only nod when they continue to talk to you. Can't they see that what they said actually hit some deep wounds and caused a little pain? In some cases people may not see it because they don't know or understand that it's such a touchy subject. Others just choose not to see it.
Those that are reading this now, if you have these issues and struggle with them for any type of reason, keep working. You can do it and it will become better coming from someone who works on it all the time. Those who are reading it but don't have these issues, you may know of someone who does, or you don't even realize that a close friend of yours might have these issues. Don't jump to conclusions or judge someone right away because they are may be controlling or power hungry. Learn about the issue and why they could have it and help your friend if they need it.
