Confidence Is Sexy
Every person in their life struggles with body image. I don’t care if you’re the tiniest person or the largest, you are worried that someone isn’t going to like you for your looks. Media tells us to be small, a size zero if you wish. That’s not true. We don’t need to be super thin. Have confidence.
Having confidence isn’t as easy as it looks. A lot of work goes into developing that personal confidence in yourself. Here are a few methods to teach yourself confidence:
1. Dress to Impress Yourself
If you love that shirt, wear it. Don’t worry what others think of it. If you think you look bomb in a shirt, then that’s all the better for you. Statistics show that if you dress for you and not for others, your confidence level increases. Does this mean you have to spend hours on your hair and makeup every day? No! If you feel beautiful in a dress, wear it! If you feel beautiful in a jersey, wear it! Everyone has their own definition of comfort and beauty. It’s up to you to decide what you want to wear
2. Take One Day a Week to Dress Up
Yes, we all hate dressing up. It’s too much effort to wake up an extra hour early and properly do our makeup and hair. However, dressing up one day a week gives you an excuse to say wow I look amazing. That will boost the confidence you have in yourself. This is your excuse to walk around campus and get compliments too.
3. Don't Wear Make Up One Day
Didn’t I just tell you to take a day and look amazing? Why yes, yes I did. However, it’s important to have confidence in your own skin. Choose one day out of the week to not wear makeup, Trust me I am obsessed with make up so this was hard for me too. I chose Mondays. I was inspired by Demi Lovato to remove all of my makeup on Mondays and do nothing with my hair. The first day was awful! I felt so self-conscious. I didn’t even want to leave my room. However, over time I got more and more used to my bare face. Now, if I don’t feel like doing my makeup I don’t touch my face and I am completely okay with that. It has taught me to love myself in my own skin.
4. Start Working Out Daily
We all hate the gym. Don’t lie. You don’t want to go because you are worried about others staring at you the whole time, and worse of all judging you. I’m here to break some news to you: they don’t care! No one is watching you. They are all too busy either worried about whether they are being watched or their workout. I promise you getting to the gym will also change your overall outlook on life. You will feel better. Statistics show that the more you work out the more confident, and more energy you have. Working out secretes hormones in your body that provide a euphoria effect. Working out makes you feel good all over, it’s also healthy and you may lose weight in the process!
5. Pay Yourself a Compliment
Complimenting yourself is one of the most successful methods of building confidence. Tell yourself your eyes are pretty. Tell yourself you’re smart. Tell yourself something and cling to that. When I was fighting my negative self-image, I told myself I was super smart every single day. That was the one thing I found that I liked about myself. I clung to this idea, and soon I found others. That helped me build my confidence immensely.
6. Surround Yourself with Positive Thinkers
Yes, every girl complains about their body every now and then. Surround yourself with friends who reflect self-confidence. Surrounding yourself with negative air makes it harder to be positive about yourself. Find the friends who talk about other things than how much they hate their body or how much they need to lose weight because after all there are more important things in life like school. It’s a proven fact that your outlook or attitude about a situation will change if you are in a more positive set mind frame.
7. Smile
Cheesy (excuse the pun), yes I know. Just do it, there is nothing more attractive or, dare I say confident, about a person who smiles a lot. The saying is true that you have no idea who is falling in love with your smile. I used to never smile, like ever. I always was ashamed of my smile when I had braces. People always thought I was upset. However, when I got my braces off I smiled. I got so many compliments on it. Those compliments boosted my confidence, so much that I started smiling more. Then I won the senior superlative of best smile.
8. Eat Better
No I am not trying to convince you to go vegetarian, but having fruit or veggies every once in a while can’t hurt. The better you eat, the more your body will love you for it. Whenever you feel better, your mood lifts and you can get out of your slump.
9. Treat Yourself
Not too often though. Take a day to do something you love. Go on a nature walk. Go to the movies. Get your nails done. Do something that makes you feel better about yourself. If getting your nails done makes you feel like you are on top of the world do it! That small little boost of confidence could save your day.
Sure, everyone has his or her insecurities. We all try to hide them and continue our life hoping people don't notice them. Embracing and overcoming that threshold of embarrassment is where an individual learns who he or she is. By using these steps to create self confidence in yourself, you will project an aura about you that draws in more people. More people will also like you for you. My cousin told me when I was 11 years old, "Confidence is Sexy." A little abrasive for an 11 year old, but she was right. Confidence is something everyone should develop. Without confidence how are you going to ask that boy or girl out you really like? How are you going to have the courage to ask for help on homework? How are you going to get that raise or promotion at work? I tell myself every day that small phrase, "Confidence is sexy,” and it reminds me to always believe in myself, just as you should.
