You know that girl, she loves to love. She's your sister, your best friend, that girl you can't stand. Oh, wait a minute... she's you.
To the girls who always have a man in their life: It's okay if you don't. Easier said than done, right? It seems silly seeing this written down because ideally it should be so simple. But, if there's anything we need to learn how to do in our twenties it's to be happily single and appreciate the friends we have around us.
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It may be difficult to admit, but ultimately if there is any time in your life when it's okay to be selfish that time is definitely now. For the most part, twentysomethings have a lot of self-discovering to do when it comes to college and life goals—and nothing clouds your judgement more than a guy. DUN-DUN-DUN.
For a lot of us, college dating works out beautifully. However, if that has not been your experience thus far, don't sweat it. You have to learn to love yourself and be content with who you are before you can share that love with another person.
So, girls, here's some advice, straight from me to you: Focus on yourself, first. There is nothing more attractive than someone who has their own life and agenda apart from a guy. Plan a girl's night out or getaway, visit your family back home, get a job you actually enjoy, take up a hobby (or ten). Simply do the things that you would usually put to the side when you're preoccupied with a guy. I'll be the first to admit that I've had my fair share of relationships that have caused me to put friendships and personal goals on the back burner. We're all guilty of it, but remember, there will come a point when you'll need your girls and will immediately regret neglecting your friendships.
Be selfish in that you're taking the time to think about yourself and your future. Figure out where you want to be, and more importantly the woman you want to be. Become the best version of yourself. All of these things will help prepare you for life after graduation when you may be challenged to actually start off alone for the first time in your life.
So when he breaks your heart or you feel lost in a relationship and don't know what the future holds remember to take time to do you, first. Don't replace him with the next guy, but rather replace him with a better you. And maybe, just maybe he'll see the new you and want you back. But if he doesn't, then move on and just be happy. Isn't that the ultimate goal?
