I Met My Soul Sister In College

I Met My Soul Sister In College

College can be a really stressful and rough time, so thankfully I met you when I did.

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I met my soul sister in college.

My freshman year, before joining a sorority and proceeding to move three hours away from home, I was scared, alone, and incredibly homesick. Until you came along.

I knew you as the girl on my floor who happened to sit next to me in History 150, where we didn't learn a thing about the West in the World. Instead, I serenaded you to every Beatles song our professor played before class began and giggled through learning a whole curriculum on Russia and Ukraine.

As I got to know you more, the less I felt homesick, the less I felt nervous, and the less I felt alone. I don't know if it was our weekly hangouts of streaming RuPaul's Drag Race, the fact that we were in each other's rooms more often than our own roommates, or all the studying we did together, talking to each other in accents or silly voices so we would remember the material, and then going to take the tests together. Somewhere along the way, I had discovered that you had become my person.

Looking back on all of that seems like such a distant memory, one that I now keep in a tiny section of my heart categorized as, "some of the best times I've ever had in my life." Thankfully, as time has progressed, you have continuously affirmed my suspicion that you have become my soul sister.

Such an odd concept, isn't it? When after being lonely throughout high school, never having a friend group of my own, that I just so happened to meet my very best friend at school, when we would have never met because we live four hours away from one another?

Now that I know you, I am so proud to have a best friend like you. Your aura is contagious. You are so dedicated to everything you do, whether that's clubs, work, or academics. Seeing how hard you love and how much you value everything, even the little things, inspires me to be a better me.

I thank you. I thank you for all the movie nights. I wouldn't want to binge watch the whole Twilight series or indulge in Little Women of Atlanta with anyone else. I thank you for all the times I've cried and you just listened, whether it was getting a call that made my walls crash down and burn or freaking out over failing math. I thank you for playing balloon ball with me at two in the morning around our building out of boredom. I thank you for being the one person I can be completely dumb with, talk in stupid voices with, crack the worst of the dad jokes to, and partake in the best late night adventures of writing curse words in the snow with.

My advice? If you were like me, who never truly felt like you belonged, never truly felt like you had that one gal pal who you could pour out your soul to, don't give up. Believe it or not, you could have your very own Holly out there waiting for you.

I love you sister.

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10 Ways College Is 100% NOTHING Like High School

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As a college freshman well into their second semester, it has officially occurred to me just how different, and often times better, college is compared to its predecessor, high school.

Here are just 10 ways the two could not be MORE different:

1. How you sleep

You'll go from waking up three hours before school to three minutes before class

2. How you hygiene

Once-a-day showers develop into dry shampoo for four days straight.

3. How you eat

Pizza goes from a once-in-a-while treat to an everyday food group.

4. How you socialize

You'll go from being nice to everyone to disliking people for no reason.

5. How much effort you put into your appearance

High school contour was on fleek and now there's somehow mascara on your forehead.

6. How you nap

Naps go from two hours to 10 minutes.

7. How you operate heavy machinery

Driving goes from 10 and 2 with perfectly lined up mirrors to driving with your knees and eating a taco.

8. Your classmates

High school classes are with all of your friends and college classes have strangers in them almost every day.

9. The people teaching you things

High school teachers are scary and mean, while college professors become your friends.

10. Textbooks

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I'm About To Burst, Laughing At The People Who Thought My Pregnancy Meant I Had To Drop Out Of College

I get stared at in the halls and asked if I am going to drop out. Here are ways being a pregnant student has changed my college experience.

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I have been pregnant the entire time that I have been in graduate school. It was not how I planned to experience grad school, but it has opened my eyes to a whole new perspective and will give me a lovely son (seriously, any second now). There are certain things that I did not realize about being a pregnant student until I experienced it, and maybe my experiences can help better prepare other women, or give them something to relate to since pregnant students are such a rare breed.

As a grad student and a 25-year-old, I am around the average age to have my first child in America. I am not dependent on my parents and the world does not treat me like a child anymore.

However, since I decided to pursue my master's degree, I feel that people are not used to seeing pregnant and student in the same sentence without gasping.

When I first told my father, his first reaction was to ask me if I was to going to drop out.

This became a recurrent reaction from my family and friends (which my boyfriend who is also a student was never asked once). I did not expect the hesitant reactions and it made me feel shameful to be a pregnant student. As my expecting belly grew I always noticed that people on campus would stare at my stomach.

As I walked past, their eyes followed my belly like I had a giant red felt "A" on my chest.

None of my classmates are pregnant and thinking back, I can't remember ever seeing a pregnant woman in all of my five years of college. Since none of my classmates were pregnant, I felt like I had no one to relate to. There are a lot of things that pregnancy effects, besides the baby in the tummy part. I could not go out and get drinks with my classmates and bond with them the way that they were all doing. I could not relate to them fashionably because maternity clothes are heinous. I also feel like pregnancy put up a barrier because I would have a baby eventually and will always be busy, so why bother?

Pregnancy side effects would sometimes take a toll on my school work. In the first trimester, I could barely get out of bed because I was so tired. I could easily have slept 14 hours straight and being a working student did not help. I would seep through some of my classes and had to take the hit to my attendance points. I also have "pregnancy brain." Pregnancy brain is a real thing and is not well known enough. My mind can be so scattered that I forget my friend's names while I am speaking to them. I think it is October when it is March. Pregnancy brain has made me forget that I even go to school or that I work in twenty minutes. I missed due dates or completely misread instructions on assignments. For someone who needs A's on every assignment to function, it hurt because I would never make that mistake otherwise.

There are also benefits to being a pregnant student. I am never hungover and I have never been tempted to ditch a night class for a drinking holiday.

Pregnancy has allowed me to prioritize my school work and ignore the college lifestyle.

Before I knew I was pregnant, I went with my roommates to bars in Chicago's Lincoln Park. I feel so happy knowing getting wasted from $3 shots on a Wednesday is behind me. I now truly have nothing better to do at night than complete my homework.

Another benefit is that you sometimes get special treatment. The special treatment that pregnant women get is awesome. It is my favorite part and sometimes makes me wish I could be pregnant forever. People feel obligated to wait on me hand and foot. If I drop something, people rush to pick it up. It is completely not necessary but I get to feel like a princess for a day (or 280 days). Even though I was singled out for being the only pregnant woman, I was always treated especially nicely by students and professors.

Regardless of my friends and family expecting me to drop out, I am doing phenomenal in grad school. I have received A's in every class and have loved all of my classes. Being a pregnant student can be tough, but it is totally doable. If you find yourself to be a pregnant student, don't feel discouraged. It is not ruining your college experience but allowing you to do college differently.

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